It can be quite heartbreaking to see your son not being able to make a strong friendship group. It must be so difficult to see this and not be able to change things for him and make things better.
I'm wondering if you have had a chat with his school and see if there is any way that they can support him with making a friend(s). They may know of other children who are also struggling to make friends and find a way to pair them up with your son discretely. I'm also wondering if the school is aware of any bullying that is happening? A lot of children may choose to not discuss this with parents and this may be a factor of his shyness.
Are there any activities he would like to do outside of school? Would he be interested in starting up a sporting activity for example or another sort of activity that may not require much talking at first and can lead to building friendships over time? Some sort of club that gets his interest might be a good place to start as he will be around others of like mind. Are there any youth groups in your area that he would like to give a go?
Here is a video that may help your son see that the is not alone: https://au.reachout.com/videos/friendships
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Hi @Pleasehelp101 ,
I understand it must be tough to have your son not want to go to school. It may be difficult for your son to understand the repercussions of not going to school. I'm wondering if you have spoken to your son about his reasoning for not wanting to go to school? Is it possible that there is barrier for him to enjoy school? Have you tried to talk the the teachers at the school to see if anything was happening towards the end of last eg: bullying or issues with another student/(s)? It's possible that your son is experiencing some anxiety regarding returning to school, particularly as he would have spent a lot of time home last year. If he continues to refuse to go to school, you could try to reach out to the school and see if they can put any supports in place.
Attached is an article for you to read if it pleases you https://parents.au.reachout.com/common-concerns/everyday-issues/things-to-try-school-and-education/how-to-help-a-teen-who-doesnt-want-to-go-to-school .
You can also call parentline and look through their website for more information and advice.
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