Hi, thanks for your message. I'm sorry to hear about your health situation and struggles as well. It's not easy, is it! We are pretty isolated where we are from family so unfortunately there's not really anyone around for my son to talk to. I think you're right though, it probably would be a good idea for me to get some personal help as this is way too stressful and I have constant anxiety. Especially as my son refuses to face things and no longer wants any help. There's a possibility for him to do a course now and he seems far keener on that than school, so I'm hoping this could help. Hoping lockdown ends soon for you :( makes everything so much harder. Thanks again for your message, it has been very helpful
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Hi, I'm really looking for some advice. Our family is going through a bit of a crisis regarding our 15-year-old son and I have no friends or family I can talk to about it. Our son's had a history of being in trouble at school, diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder & ADHD. He's been violent and intimidating at home and has been expelled for fighting. We have tried getting him professional help from multiple psychologists throughout his life. We have tried everything - removing privileges, involvement in sports, so much love and support. Now he just flat out refuses to attend school and so he is now removed from that school. He disappears most nights and stays at anyone's house who will have him, he takes drugs and gets drunk in parks with groups of teenagers. Right now I don't even know where he is and the anxiety and pain for my husband and I are extremely distressing. We are always letting him know we love him and trying to take the advice and work on our connection with him. The police say unless he commits a crime, they won't/cant do anything. I can't even talk to him as he just blocks my phone calls/texts and when he is home, there is no way he wants to discuss anything. So now, even if I just want to have a quick chat saying anything at all, he won't talk, not even to a casual hi- nothing. I don't know how to keep up trying to be a supportive parent when everyday , he's either not home, or the few times he is, he's aggressive and helps himself to anything he wants. He doesn't want help from anyone anymore. I don't really know what it is I'm asking, I'm just feeling desperate as it's such a painful situation and I feel quite isolated and hopeless. Im constantly fearfil the police are going to knock on the door saying he's hurt someone or has been hurt. I dont understand how any of this has happened, I lack so much hope as he had so many struggles during childhood and now this is how he's coping to feel better. we are a loving supportive family.
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