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my2kidsrock · ‎06-17-2022

Hi :) I know this is a stressful time. The way we did it was my child wrote up a FB and instagram post, introducing himself, and what name and pronouns that he now goes by, I then shared that post and said my own little thing. It helped for us, for most of our family and friends to see it. I have a couple of people who just don't get or understand it, but I let everyone know that I was open to questions. Overall, I think people have surprised me, and they have been accepting, and take a real effort to use his new name and pronouns, You got this,! Best of luck :)

my2kidsrock · ‎01-30-2022

oh my gosh, I am so sorry, I will watch what I write. My apologies. Thank you so much for editing it!!

my2kidsrock · ‎01-29-2022

my child has also been self harming - started out by controlling his eating then changed to physical harm. We have found a psychologist (which we have tried others) and they talked about the self harm first, and he asked him not to self harm for the next week, until they meet again so they can assess. They suggested getting a pen and drawing on themselves instead. This is so hard to go through, for us and to not know how to help them. My heart hurts for you, you are not alone.

my2kidsrock · ‎01-29-2022

Hi :) I do have my husband who is super at listening to me and helping me through all of my emotions. I am so blessed to have such an amazing partner! I do wish that I could see a therapist but financially it just isn't possible at the moment. Going through all of this in the last 6 month, plus in this time frame my mom has had a lot of health issues, and almost died, and I lost a brother and a sister all while trying to be strong for my kids. We just brought home 2 chocolate lab puppies last night, so this is going to be a great mental boost for us(although I may go crazy house training, haahaa!!) I am just so fortunate to at least have a supportive husband for the last 23 years. So I am much more lucky then most. Thank you for checking in on me, it means so much.

my2kidsrock · ‎01-28-2022

I'm really sorry that you are going through this, it's so hard to our kiddos struggling. My boy is great at faking it that everything is ok, and I hate it. I said to him that it is ok to have a crappy day!! You just tell me you are, and I will hug you and you don't even have to tell me why. Way to go being so loving and accepting, we are doing great letting them be who they feel they are. It's so not ok to be nasty and unkind. It must be stressful and puts everyone on the edge of their seats all of the time. We find that now that we know that M self harms, we are scared to say anything that may upset him. Being a teen is so much more hard now then when I was a kid. I really hope you can get some smiles back around your house. Have you tried seeing a therapist? Wishing you nothing but the best. Sure is nice to know that we are not alone. Big hugs

my2kidsrock · ‎01-28-2022

Sorry for the delay :) I am not currently concerned for his safetly, although we had a tough week and had to put our precious dog down. I know he self harmed, and we made sure he was keeping them clean. He started at a new psychologist yesterday, and already feels a bond with her. I went in for the first 15 mins, and talked about our concerns, then left them to talk. They are touching base on the self harm first and foremost, and she asked him to go the week without self harming, to try drawing on himself instead. So I see hope. I'm not going to lie, we told him he needs to start opening up to someone and we need to see him showing some improvement, and following advice, and we would let him get a piercing. So he really wants to work for that. We are also picking up our new puppy tonight, so I know that is a great distraction for him. Thank you for the reply!

my2kidsrock · ‎01-22-2022

I don't even know where to begin, or what to say. First off, my almost 16 year old is so fantastic, cool, loving, and my world. He has always suffered from axiety and perfectionism for as long as his dad and I can think of. Even as a toddler we couldn't change their bedroom around without an anxiety attack. In the summer he was diagnosed with high anxiety, we started meds and they seemed to help(but also came suicidal thoughts)...fast forward, he starts High school, comes out as non-Binary and a lesbian(oh cool, dad and I are on board, just keep being a good person), complete change in looks, no worries, then he comes to us and says that he is trans- again, awesome, we love you, keep being a good person. he seems very comfortable as a male, we thought things were looking fantastic, but now I can not recognize him- I mean mentally. Since December he started to self harm, he trying to steal some wine that we had sitting in our basement that we had bought for a gift(we don't even drink), everything he says seems to be him needing or wanting a reaction, he says he can not feel anything, and just wants to feel. We tried a couple of psychologists and he wouldn't open up but he said that he is open to talking now, and we found a new person and I am praying that it helps. He had such a stable household- Dad and I have been very happy for 23 years together, we are always laughing as a family, he rarely sees any conflict, we have open communication, I run a dayhome so that I could be here for my kids when they needed me, I'm lost as to what I have done wrong, I am so far from perfect but man, this kid has been loved, and shown love. He was isolated from friends and school during covid restrictions( for 1.5 years) and I know that is a good portion of where it comes from) Anyways, I was having a pity party- all i want is for my kid to be happy, and healthy, and ready to live life. My heart just hurts for him Thanks for letting me get this out

my2kidsrock · ‎01-10-2022

Hi, I am new to the group, and our oldest(15) came out as trans this fall. He was born female, but feels that he is male. my husband and I are going with the flow, allowing him to explore himself and his sexuality. We were very scared, worried and confused at the start(all the emotions), and now it;s just natural to call him by his new pronouns and his name he picked out. He has found a great group of friends who are trans or non-binary, non judgemental, kind and loving. My husband and I always said to our kids, of all things in life you may become, just always stay a kind, loving and a good person. He is still who he was as a girl but now he is just a different sex. I would rather him run to us then away. Keep communication open, ask a lot of questions. His school has a gay/straight alliance that meets at lunch to support each other, and to meet like minded friends, not sure if that is an option for your kiddo Isolation and being alone is the worst thing for my kiddo- they sink into depression and withdrawal, so we try to bring him out to hang with us as much as possible. It;s hard to watch your child change, but I think life is about change, who he is today may not be who he is next year or in 5 or 10 years. I hope he can find some like minded friends and a support group. Our child suffers from High anxiety, OCD, suicidal thoughts, perfectionism and most recently self harm, so being trans is the easiest for my husband and I to be able to support him. I hope that all makes sense, as I tend to ramble, lol! You are doing amazing, I can tell that you are a loving mom and that makes a world of difference. Keep up the therapy :) Huge hugs!!

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