Oh my, I feel like we are living the same life. 3yrs with my partner he has a 12yo who is just a wonderful daughter 50% shared custody. In short the mothers words via text "i don't give a **** about what the court orders say or what the judge said". We have a close knit family and have a blast when she is with us, we are all so loving, caring, supportive. But the other side all we cop is abusive text on and on and on. Trying mediation again to sort out high school, but think we need to go back to court to update orders to get police intervention when she withholds the child for no reason and the abuse side. It's just emotionally draining being abused by someone that hasn't even met you..... and your step daughter saying mum really hates you and I keep asking her why cause your so nice and caring..... mother is a complete naccarcist and in each text it's the smoke and mirrors, blames us for ruining the childs life, where it is all her...... women like that shouldn't be allowed to be a parent. My partner and I just have to ignore the abuse and not respond, even though everything she writes in there is a load of rubbish!! I'll stick by my partner through this because if theres any justice, we should hopefully get more custody of the child if and when we need to go back to court! ... View more

Hi, I'm in the same situation. Been with my partner for 3 yrs, his daughter just turned 12, court orders in place since 2014, and the mother simply states "I don't give a **** what the court orders say or what the judge said" her physiological abuse on the little girl is shocking and she manipulates the court orders to her daughter without actually showing her the court orders. She does everything she can to continually abuse my partner and me and says how his daughter hates us and doesn't want to be around us. Yet everytime she is with us, we have a blast and we are a close knit little family. We have 50% shared custody, but can't continue with the text abuse and rubbish which she sends us all the time, she withholds her and it all emotionally impacts our relationship. We ignore all messages and don't respond and communication is only via text, and when you see all the messages my partners sends they are only about the child, school, appointments etc and hers to us at just constant abuse, how she keeps saying we're ruining the daughters life, where as its all her.... she questions the child about our relationship, what we are doing, she denigrate us to his daughter everything in breach of court orders.... it's just so frustrating, upsetting and it hurts to keep my mouth shut, because if I opened it I wouldn't stop on how she is the worst thing that's walked on this planet and she doesn't have the right to be a mother!! Sorry needed to vent after getting abusive text last night!! Court is our option to try and have orders updated to have police intervention, as mediation fails as she lies to mediators about the situation, which is so sad. She pushes her own agenda and not what is in the best interest of the child. Do u think contravention is the best way to go? How many times does she need to contravene and in what time frame? Thanks ... View more

Hi, I'm a very strong resilient person and just keep looking forward towards the future. Personally my well-being is really great and I ensure that I remain positive and keep investing in what is best for the family. I've been a pillar of strength helping my partner through this situation, remaining calm, focused and ensuring we are doing everything which is in our control and in the best interests of his daughter. It's sometimes been a struggle on our relationship due to his ex's abuse towards us both, but with my continued support in this situation our relationship as a couple and family grows stronger. The major affects happens on my partner emotionally, but we work through it using mindfulness techniques and doing things we enjoy. But he knows and the little wins along the way is our love and support which help us through some of the tough times. ... View more

Hi SkyBlue123, still currently going through meditation. On a good note, the child is still going to the same primary school, after her mother never took her all of term 1 and start of term 2, so I did what was in my control and contacted the correct government bodies for them to enforce their ACTS on parents who breach education law. Since then they have acted apon my very detailed email and contacted the mother, the child has been attending school the past 3 weeks in her mother's care, so that's a win, and that's a good one for now! I hope you've achieved good outcomes in meditation which makes life a little easier.... ... View more