I have been with my partner for 6 years and we have a blended family. The oldest stepdaughter (14) lives with her mum full time but we see my other stepchildren regularly. Over the past few years (prior to stopping visitation altogether) my stepdaughter would abruptly stop seeing us and her mum would say it was because she doesn’t want to be around me, I single her out and ‘yell and scream’ at her. Whenever she would come back, she would tell us her mum constantly says bad things about us , which she believed. My stepdaughter has left a notebook out detailing her hatred for me, with some very explicit language toward not only me but my mum (her Nan) too. She only wants to visit her dad if I leave and she believes that her dad has changed because of me. Her mum fuels this behaviour by allowing her to choose when she comes and provides a list of demands to follow should she decide to come, including not asking her questions, not talking about what has happened and not mentioning our feelings about it at all. She recently came for her birthday, collected her gift, then left because I ‘ruined her birthday’ and I then received an abusive message from her mother. She came on a family holiday for a few nights at the beginning of the year after not sleeping over for 12 months due to ‘feeling uncomfortable’ and not wanting to be around me. She seems to only come for the good times, but refuses to acknowledge or talk about anything that has happened or why she won’t see us at any other time of the year. We are planning a family holiday at the beginning of next year and my question is, would you still invite her? ... View more