Thanks for the reply’s! I have taken her to get a mental healthcare plan and I have requested for her to see the school psychologist although her teacher has said she is a perfect student who she can’t imagine would need to see the school psychologist (I’m sure she is a different kid at school surrounded by her friends) I’m very proactive with my mental health as I have had depression/ptsd in the past so I see my psychologist once a month. We had a long chat last night & I just expressed how concerning her behaviour was, we had an opportunity to talk about the baby coming and how she will get to be a big sister! She is adamant she wants to remain the baby of the family so I’m going to go get some books about having a younger sibling etc. She triggers me because she has a lot of characteristics as her father (my ex husband and father of my eldest daughter) our marriage ended due to DV, so I’m also probably hyper aware and sensitive to apathy & lack of emotion in my daughter. She has a very good relationship with her father & sees him often but never wants to stay more than 2 nights. I’m very open if the girls don’t want to go they don’t have to, and though it’s been trying at times we (her father and I) have worked hard at keeping the communication open between us to discuss the kids. She wrote me a little apology note and slipped it under my door while I was asleep. I really hope we see some improvement and I am going to make it my mission to make sure both girls get some one on one mummy time even though I’m working full time & feel like I don’t have a spare minute in the day. Thanks again for everyone comments :) ... View more

This is literally me with my daughters! (See my post for the details) My daughter is 8 and exactly what you described. I’m at a loss at what to do aswell. Her sister on the other hand who is 11 is a dream in comparison. Miss 8 antagonises the living daylights out of my eldest it’s so infuriating to witness. I hope you find some solice in the fact you are not alone but also if you find any tips that help please share them. May the force be with you ... View more