My child is in year 11...its the worst time for concerns and the school system not allowing considerations. I'm not sure its the same state to state but here we have an application you can lodge for "reasonable adjustments" to be made. You may need to speak with their doctor to start this process because they a likely needed to sign/disclose evidence with the application. I had never heard about this until my teens psychologist mentioned this to me. Try to look into this asap....if their health is bad, reasonable adjustments need to be considered for re sitting tests, exams etc. If your doctor cant put you on the right track with this, ask the school where/how to apply for the school to be able to make reasonable adjustments for students where necessary to enable their access and participation.
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Hi @Jurluk, thank you for sharing your concerns. Raising teens can be quite perplexing at times, and I think @Ngaio-RO has given some great insight into teens. Remembering the things Ngaio has pointed out really helps me to have more understanding as to how my daughter sees the world and her place in it.
I completely understand your concerns and the reasons you're so worried. The language thing is something I find a bit confronting at times. Hoes seems to be what the girls call their girlfriends. We've just had the conversation here, as my daughter has 2 friends sleeping over tonight. They were in the kitchen getting their pizza, and were having the conversation around hoes before bro's, but then they also call each other bro, so were discussing whether they were hoes or bros to each other, neither was insulting to any of them. My input - call me bro anyday! Who wants to be called a hoe?? But I'm old and don't understand apparently! Luckily these girls do support each other and look after each other, so I have to understand it's different terminology, nothing more with this lot.
With posting photos we can only teach them respect for themselves and try and get them to understand that photos can be distributed and can stay online forever. I'd suggest having that conversation with your daughter so she understands the implications and possible consequences of posting photos online.
My suggestion would be to leave any conversations until you get home. Your daughter may feel shamed or embarrassed as you're on holidays with others. I find if I tell myself I have a plan of action, it makes it a little easier to put aside until a more appropriate time. Try and enjoy the last few days of your holiday and the company of your friends.
It is a huge benefit of the forum, reading other people's situations and knowing we're not alone in our struggles, as our kids aren't in theirs. Thank you so much for contributing.
We're starting up a chat night for parents which is kicking off this Friday 6th at 8pm (EDST). We'd love you to join in if you're home by then. The link is here if you're available to join us. It's running each Friday night at the same time if you can't join us this week.
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