11-05-2018 03:38 PM - edited 11-05-2018 07:54 PM
11-05-2018 08:53 PM
Hey @Moloko it's definitely a hard one no doubt. Of course at that age there is a surge of hormones which certainly can result in feeling depressed. I think you're right too there's a bit of a misconception especially regarding young people that there is some kind of 'quick fix'. Sounds like a pretty good Doctor to me, referring onto a counsellor is a really good first base. Has she mentioned anything that may be causing her change in emotional health? I will tag some parents for you too
11-05-2018 10:41 PM - edited 11-06-2018 10:03 AM
My suggestion is meet with the counsellor yourself.
Get a sense of what they are like and identify key things you hope the counselling is to achieve.
Make sure you also let your daughter know that if the counselling is not working for her, to tell you early on and try and find one that does work. Don’t just persist with the same one if it is not helping.
My wife sought counselling help due to the problems with my son and the first counsellor she got actually contributed to an increase in her anxiety and problems. It was actually better for her to find a good masseuse, do some yoga at home (there are great routines on YouTube to watch on an iPad to take you through) and this helped more. In other words, do things that help you too.
11-06-2018 11:56 AM
I totally understand your daughter feeling upset that there is not a quick fix. I honestly thought ok 6 months and things will be same old again. I probably asked the therapist for a timeline. I agree with @Orbit64 that its important to find a therapist that your daughter is comfortable with. I think my daughter knows by the 2nd or third visit if it is someone she can work with.
I am so glad your daughter came to you and expressed that she might be depressed. That is HUGE! It speaks volumes for your relationship and the fact that she wants help. That's one of the biggest steps for healing.
The things that helps my daughter on this journey have been NOT isolating in her room, art.... actually any form of self expression, long hot baths and yoga. I have also had to back off and not ask her every 5 minutes if she is okay. I think in some ways my wanting to "fix" her gave her more anxiety.
Your daughter will get through this but it will take time. Hugs.... We are here for you!