My 12 yr old daughter is terrified starting high school
Discussion forum for parents in Australia
Hi @LIALIA and thank you for your openness in sharing your experience with other parents. It sounds like your family has been through a lot, and looked at so many different ways to support your daughter not only with her mental wellbeing, but also with her education.
I really love the learnings you have for others, especially number 2: "Try not to blame ourselves (this is very hard)". I think that this list is going to be so helpful for other parents reading here who are going through the same things with the return to schooling. We often here parents feeling guilt and blame, and I am happy to see that self compassion was high up on your list, even when it is hard to do!
I can hear how much you love your daughter, and just how hard you have fought for her 
She is so lucky to have you in her corner!
