04-28-2019 08:45 AM
04-28-2019 11:01 AM
Hi..I know my son who is 16 now uses his lunch money etc for weed..like you I am not happy about it, but it could be worse. I am very open about it now with him..hard to get a job with you are stoned etc etc . He’s is still doing well at school..goes to school, and is a nice kid . I just keep working on him with subtle digs ..but am not making everything about the weed . Because he is more than that .,, Hope this helps!
04-28-2019 12:42 PM
In my opinion. Let her earn her allowance for doing chores, not skipping school, keeping homework done. Whatever responsibility you two agree upon. Do this even though you know she is buying pot with her money. This is hard to admit but it might help you. At one point my daughter did not have any money so she actually traded sexual favors for pot. The only way I found out was from her therapist, then she admitted it. It was a sickening feeling but kids have a much more casual idea of sex than we would like to think. And a girl especially a troubled one with lower self esteem can be easily swayed with a tiny bit of attention. My opinion is give her allowance, it could potentially help you not go through my nightmare.
05-08-2019 11:35 PM
05-10-2019 04:16 PM
Hey there @Nikkita, how are things going between you and your son?
It sounds frustrating to have to deal with your son's poor behaviour so often, especially when he is rude and disrespectful to you.
Do you have anyone around you who can support you through this? Such as friends, family members or even a professional? It's important that while all this is happening that you are also taking care of yourself. Is there anything you like to do to help you get away from what's going on?
05-16-2019 10:09 PM
05-29-2019 02:54 PM - edited 05-29-2019 02:55 PM
I can hear from your posts you have been working really hard to try and set boundaries for your son and seek help for him too. I can't begin to imagine how challenging it must be emotionally when he doesn't meet these supports halfway.
How have the last two weeks been? You mentioned your son hasn't been attending his appointments, have you been able to speak to his professional network to let them know about the schooling or his behaviours at home? Now that the school term is back, has the drinking and smoking reduced or has it persisted?
Please keep reaching out to us when you need to chat We are always here to be a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on