03-07-2019 04:31 AM
03-07-2019 11:01 AM - edited 03-07-2019 11:07 AM
Hi @Bashy93 being a parent, who shift works. is really difficult. It can seem like you never get on top of things and can never fit in with others, especially social life. You may never share the same days off, shops are always shut, family are everywhere else etc. Having said this parenting is just as hard.
Hubby is a shiftworker and we never know his roster for the next month until the last week of this one. We try to prioritize his sleep, as he is the money earner, and one of ours didn't sleep through until he was 5yo, but all other roles in the house are fairly evenly split. He shares most parenting duties and does a fair chunk of the house work, especially cooking. We found while the kids were little 'me time' was a dream but it's much better now.
Parenting is a very emotional and full time role. We treat it as a full time job. There's lots of teaching, touching, consoling, entertaining, disciplining and mothers in particular find it hard to 'turn off' according to research.
So I don't offer a solution but ask you to consider reflecting on what you do and what needs to be done as a family. Then your partner may be more open to discussion.
Also, even though bubs is older, it is possible for mum to suffer PND, undiagnosed. Good luck.
03-08-2019 11:34 PM
03-12-2019 06:04 PM
Hey @Bashy93 ,
Hope things are going better and you can see a light at the end of the tunnel!
Domestic/work imbalances are common and so I just wanted to share that you are not alone.
Not sure of the best way forward for you, but communication (where possible) is usually helpful.
I remember years ago, my wife and I created a scheduled (it had the added benefit of highlighting how imbalanced things were).
Best of luck, and let us know how you go
10-17-2022 04:38 AM - last edited on 10-19-2022 10:11 PM by Courtney-RO
Finding that balance between activities, school and chilling out is really hard for us adults let alone teenagers.
How much sport is your son doing? Is it early mornings only, or later in the day as well?
Also what year is he in at school and has his school results remained consistent?
10-26-2022 07:16 PM
Being a good father is difficult and requires a lot of effort and sacrifice
A father can be any male. It's try that b eing a good father is difficult. My ex, but worked shift work for several years before getting divorced, but he still a good father. It would be quite difficult to do both at the same time.
Saying that you should prioritize yourself and your children
What your ex does in her spare time is unimportant.