03-15-2019 11:34 PM - edited 03-15-2019 11:36 PM
03-18-2019 12:43 PM
Hi there @Shortstuff2 , we're so glad you found the forum too!
Your kids sound wonderful - funny and kind!
I also love having a wine and watching a movie - great way to destress!
Hope you find the community helpful and supportive
03-20-2019 03:39 PM
I can see there are quite a few new members to the forums this week- a huge welcome from us!
This is a space where you can introduce yourself and get to know some of our parents! We look forward to seeing you around the forums If you have any questions, let us know!
03-20-2019 06:03 PM
03-21-2019 11:41 PM
03-22-2019 08:47 AM - last edited on 03-27-2019 03:14 PM by Jess1-RO
I just recently joined the forum so I too am new. I found it helped to even voice my worries so I hope you feel the benefit of sharing.
My son is also twelve and has had some trouble with friends so I hope I can be of some help. There is also a boy in his class who engages in similar behaviour as your son. I have got to know him over the years and I have always felt he needs guidance on how to make friends. Instead of walking up and starting a conversation or inviting a child to play this kid will walk over and push a kid or empty their school bag all over the room or stand aside from a group of children and kick an object. Is it possible your child lacks the skills to interact and the only way he knows to get attention is to 'tap the tree'.
Some practical things might be to access coaching / classes where he can practice the skills needed for friendship.
Maybe ask the school to put a Buddy Bench in the school where children can sit when they need a friend. When a child sits on this it is a sign to othere that they need a friend.
Organise play dates at home where you can observe how he is with others.
Ask him to describe a person who feels he would connect with. What are his interests is it sport, chess, Star Wars and seek out others with similar interest.
I think in general he might need support to express that he wants a friend and then skills in maintaining friendships.
I hope this migt help.
03-22-2019 10:16 AM
I'm a parent with 4 children with the eldest being 27 and the youngest 16.
I've been through it all but still new things shock me.
I have two boys and two girls.
To relax and de-stress my fiance' and I go hiking in the bush or bike riding.
My top tip would be to listen and have fun with the kids, if they let you!
The best thing about weekends in getting on the track hiking or bike riding and watching my 16 year old play basketball and our big Sunday morning breakfasts.
03-27-2019 03:20 PM - edited 03-27-2019 03:21 PM
Hello to our new community members!
@MacDuck I really love this quote: "We have 2 ears and 1 mouth because its twice as important to listen". I think it applies to so many aspects of life!
@ConfusedMum welcome to the forums! I really loved reading that a highlight of your week was watching your teen play basketball- I can imagine it means a lot to them to have you there too!
If you are new to the community and not sure where to start, you can start a discussion here to tell us about what is happening in your family with your teens. We look forward to getting to know you all better
03-28-2019 03:08 PM
This week we have had an amazing number of registrations! For those joining the forums for the first time, a huge welcome from the parents community! This is a great space to introduce yourself to other parents!
If you want to jump straight into making a topic, you can start a discussion here or have a read through some of the posts from other parents in the community. We look forward to seeing you around!
03-28-2019 03:09 PM
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