10-18-2016 05:59 PM - edited 10-18-2016 06:09 PM
You know how we have to be all caring, understanding, patient and encouraging because we are the grown-up?
Not in here we don't! This board is purely to get anger, frustration and disappointments off our chests. No judgements here. Just venting without fear of sanction. Keep it short and sweet and others can respond with sympathy. Sort of like this:
(Original post) @Mitzi: Why do I have to ask my son every day to pick up his clothes off the floor? I'm so sick of it!
(Reply 1) @Sophie-RO: You poor thing. There, there.
(Reply 2) @Ben-RO: They start doing it only once they want to impress a date.
OK your turn! Have a rant - go on. I'll show sympathy.
10-19-2016 11:29 PM
Why do they only behave when guests are here or when they are at a friend's house. Sometimes I think a spell is put over them!
Oh such n such is such a good boy blah blah blah. Like yeah are you talking about MY child???
10-20-2016 03:25 PM
ok, i'm in . . . . (and i know that 90% is probably pretty good, but this is the glass half empty post isnt it?!)
the fact that they all (husband & kids) do things at a 90% capacity, meaning i still have to go around and complete the last 10% so realistically not much help at all (ie. i cant assume something is done so it still takes up mental space) urrrgggg!
things not quite put away, ie. they are in the vicinity of where they belong but not actually where they are meant to be (so you know down the track it is going to be "muuuuuuum, where is XXXX?" because . . . partner & child selective blindness!)
after meals the main items are put away but the chopping board is still filthy & the bench needs a wipe down
the dishes are in the sink but havent quite made it to the dishwasher
and so on
and then if i ask them to complete the task they think i am being petty & nagging, sigh!
PS and then my husband has the gall to say i dont ask for help! ha!
10-20-2016 03:28 PM - edited 10-20-2016 03:29 PM
sorry, this was in response to seaglecc
giggling here! i remember my mother saying this about me ALL.THE.TIME. i was rather proud of the fact that i knew well how to behave but didnt think i had to at home, cheeky, much! yep, and my kids do this too, call it karma
12-16-2016 03:02 PM
When my daughter is being super mean to me and her brother and when I ask her why she'll say "I can't help it, I'm really tired / hungry / pre menstural" and then I'll hear her answer her phone all "hey you, what's going on blah blah blah" just a vision of friendliness.
Sometimes I would give a limb to be treated like her friend.
I know we don't have to do this but...
Flip side of this - she feels safe enough with me and her brother to be her authentic self. She knows we're here for the long haul and she doesn't have to win our love.