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It is clear that your daughter means the world to you I'm happy to hear that your husband is a support for you and that you came here to get more advice.
It's good to hear that the articles were helpful - they were written for young people but here and here are some ones specifically for parents that might also be good to read. There's another here on positive coping skills for self-harm.
Do you think that seeing a family counsellor would be helpful for yourself and your husband? It sounds like you're both doing everything you can to support your daughter. We're here to listen and help you think of your next steps
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09-13-2021 02:01 PM
Hi @RachelB and welcome to the forums - we're so glad you've joined the community. If you'd like to create a new thread of your own, please feel free to do that here.
I'm so sorry to hear about your worries for your daughter - that sounds really stressful.
It's hard sometimes as parents to know how best to navigate things like rules and boundaries, especially in lockdown - it's a whole new world in a lot of ways really.
I'll be honest and say that my teenagers are spending more time online than I'd usually be comfortable with, and I do share your worries about what it all means for them in the long term. It's not easy when there are so many losses they're going through and so few things to replace them.
It sounds like your daughter has been really open with you about the benefits she feels she gets from interacting with her friends. Can I ask what your biggest concerns are about it? Do you think she'd be open to discussing your concerns and working towards a compromise?
Re: the issues with cutting, we have some helpful resources on our website here, in case you're interested in reading them.
Does your daughter have any professional support - eg. a counsellor or psychologist? If not, do you think that's something she would consider?
What about you - do you have people you can turn to for support, or things you can do that you find helpful or calming? Parenting in lockdown is tough sometimes.
We're here for you any time you want to talk.