Thank you for your response. Going back to the girlfriend, I need your assistance please. As always my focus and attention is on my grandson, his peace of mind, his mental health & strength and wellbeing. My grandson had asked me to celebrate New Years Eve with his girlfriend and their family at their home.  I didn’t mind, as I have now met the mother and family, and I am comfortable with him being there.  I reached out to the mother to ensure it was indeed ok for by my grandson to be with them for New Years celebration.  The mother advised they were not celebrating at their home but at her friends home and also advised my grandson was welcome to join them.  I thanked her and said I would chat the my grandson. I discussed this with my grandson and I explained that as I did not know the friend and family I preferred he did not go.  He agreed and then spoke to his girlfriend.  She was not happy with my decision, and insisted my grandson continue to pressure me to change my mind.  My grandson said we had discussed the change in plans with me and my decision, and he respected my decision as I had not met the family.  She wouldn’t give up and continued to badger my grandson even when he was receiving other calls, she refused to get of the line, she was quite happy to be put on hold while he spoke to his dad and his friends, she was still on hold (my poor grandson, he is communicating with his family & friends, knowing that she is still on the phone waiting for him to continue to speak to hear and the constant badgering.  My grandson is mindful that if he does not continue to speak to her, she may have a medical breakdown or seizure.  My grandson loves her but is afraid of the seizures and is so very torn)   I was recently made aware that they are sexually active and aware it is consensual and they are taking precautions.  I am afraid that with what is happening, she may call rape to retaliate. For my grandsons peace of mind, mental health etc who do I need to report her to, as the barrage of abuse, manipulation, guilt trip is continuous from the minute he wakes till he goes to sleep at night.  His friends advised me yesterday, she can be on his phone for more than 5 hours at a time when he his with them (the very close friends)   How do I protect my grandson so that nothing ever happens to him?  He is in his final year at school and I would like to him to have a bright future.  Please help? ... View more

Thank you for your support Just one more please, I require some beautiful words please.  What do I say to my grandson to wish him  a happy / awesome / fantastic / prosperous 2024 (it is his final year in high school)   I appreciate your input. ... View more

Thank you for your response, it was absolutely helpful.  I used the contents in your response and the articles to assist me to discuss further with my grandson, his amasing group of friends and then with his girlfriends mother. I went to meet the mother at there home on Thursday afternoon and raised the incident the night before  and also my concerns I have for my grandson.  The mother was not aware of the actions of her daughter, what transpired the night before, the involvement of the good friends to ensure her daughter was found and returned home safely.  She thanked me for bringing it to her attention.  The mother has since advised, she has booked an appointment for her daughter to seek medical assistance. The girlfriend continues to txt my grandson and continues to spin lies etc.  I intend to raise this with her mother when I see her tomorrow. Once again. I would like to thank you for your response, it was very helpful. I am very grateful to you, the Forum and Reach Out for your ongoing support ... View more