Hi Bel_RO, Thanks for responding. My son has a girlfriend since early this year. Late Feb we realised that he was sneaking out at night post 11pm & would be back by 5:30am, just before his Dad wakes up to go to the gym. First he insisted that he was just going for a walk or roaming around in the oval. Later he admitted he was going to his GF’s place for a sleepover & since he knew we wouldn’t like it, he was lying & sneaking out. Trying to get him to stop this midnight behaviour was met with resistance so we told him if he informs us & we can go drop him, he can go. He allowed me to walk with him once but refused after that. He drops me a message once he reaches instead. He now spends an average of 3 nights a week at her place which I think is too much. I worry abt issues like teen pregnancy, heartbreak due to too much attachment etc. I am also not sure if her parents are aware & ok with this since my son refuses to give me their contact details. Last week he was out on Tue, Wed & Thu nights. He then promised me, on his own, that he will not go till Monday night. Sunday night I had a suspicion & stayed up. Heard a loud thump outside our balcony. He had jumped 1 floor down from his window to go out without informing us. I am now at my wits end on what to do next, how to handle this & get him to understand that this is getting dangerous. According to him there was no harm done as he is fine. I am quite stressed & struggling a lot, which is why I am reaching out to hear from others on how to deal with such situations? I am speaking to a psychologist for help & my husband & I keep reading to find ways to communicate with our son but nothing seeks to be working. He doesn’t accept any boundaries, will just refuse & do what he likes without giving the consequences any thought. Thanks for reading my long post.
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