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beehive · ‎12-24-2017

Thank you so much Taokat! Your post made me feel a little less lonely. I have read about ice and rubber bands but was not sure if that was really a thing, to know your daughter's therapist recommended and that it helped her makes me feel hopeful. I so relate to what you said about going through your daughter's room, everything to me seems like a tool and I'm awake half the night wondering if he's up hurting himself in his room. I have not been doing much to take care of myself. In fact I have been down right letting myself go, trying to work on that too.

beehive · ‎12-24-2017

Thank you for your reply, I think boundaries are a good idea. when I think back to being a teen, it is unreasonable to expect him not to experiment with alcohol or drugs, what mostly concerns me at this point is the self harm. I'm concerned if he's under the influence he may do serious damage simply because he can't feel it enough or doesn't have the same level of control if high. We are talking in small bits and, honestly, the whole self harming is draining me, I'm not feeling like I have the energy to add cannabis onto it right now, but feel like we need to talk about that too. We are not in Australia but cannabis and alcohol are legal at 21 and yes, mostly a failure because I had no idea this was going on and the fact that it is going on.

beehive · ‎12-18-2017

So almost two weeks ago week I had the hardest discussion with my 17 year old ever - I had to confront him about his self-harming. I was blissfully ignorant of the fact, one of his friends reached out to me out of concern. I had assumed it was a new thing triggered by a bad event that had recently happened but when I confronted him, he admitted it had been going on for months. He agreed to therapy and we have started him on that, I was not in on the session and I am currently looking for someone to help me too. My insurance is kind of limited and I don't want to see the same person as him. anyhow, yesterday I found a lighter and eye drops in his drawer which led me to search further and found pot. I thought I knew this kid, I thought I was a good mother, ugh, I am feeling like such a failure. I thought I knew this boy. Thing is, my family is full of alcohol and drug addicts, I do not go near either because I know we are genetically predisposed to addiction. Kind of abhor drinking really from my experiences. I know I need to have a sit down, but I feel like I just need a break. Is it okay to let this one slide a bit? I'm already worried that he's self harming at night. Now I have to worry if he's getting high when he's out with friends.

beehive · ‎12-18-2017

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I would agree with you about concern for your husband's knee jerk reaction. While he has every reason to be angry, I think you need to approach your daughter from a viewpoint of concern and not anger. See what she has been using the money for, I'm a little concerned for her being with that group of friends if your suspicions are correct. They sound as if they are taking advantage of your daughters mental health state. Perhaps you can get some family counseling if she's not already in therapy and have her come up with suggestions on how she can repay the money she has taken. Best of luck to you.

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