Thank you everyone for all the support. This is the absolutely worst time of my life. I struggle to get through each hour without him. He was meant to be coming with us on a day out today and sleeping over but his dad text last night to say he didn’t want to go and for really upset when he tried to make him. Absolutely heartbroken all over again as I was so excited to just see him. And now his dad is saying he doesn’t even want to see me at all. Or his little brothers (who just cry for him). I spoke to him on the phone last night and he was so cold and callous and angry. But there’s no reason to be angry with me, we left on good terms, he gave me a hug and everything. He wouldn’t even say he loved me. Just said ok when I did. Can’t believe I’m losing my son.
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Hi everyone. New here so hope this is the right place to post. Basically as the heading says, my 12 year old son announced he wanted to go and live with his dad and has gone for two weeks holidays but with the full intention of not coming back. Heart is breaking! I can’t even function. He got punished for pushing and got a phone ban, he wasn’t happy so he asked to go. After he calmed down he said he didn’t. But a few days later when I sat him down and talked calmly he admitted he still did and is already away. We don’t have a volatile relationship, yes there is shouting and I called him a spoilt brat. He has two little bro’s who stop him doing certain things since they have to do stuff too. We have rules about times he’s allowed out until, screen time, homework, chores etc. With his dad and SM however he is an only child and will be run about after and go wherever he wants (possibly not the reason tho). He only said he felt sad and wanted to see if he still felt sad at his dads. He’s had a little trouble with friends at school, hates his appearance, thinks he’s the worst in his football team. He does get in trouble a bit at home, usually for pushing boundaries or similar. Gets lots of warnings and then screen ban. He had a meltdown back at Easter, and said he didn’t want to see his dad again and I have encouraged and encouraged him to go and keep in touch. So he’s only seen his dad for an hour a week since then and said he never wants to sleep over there again. And now has upped and moved there. His dad has an involvement in a sport that I cannot get him to regularly and his dad can and will take him whenever he wants. Me and his SD are lost and heartbroken. His little bro’s are just wandering around the house looking for him. As is the dog. And all my friends just say, oh don’t worry he’ll be back. But I know him and he won’t. Any words of wisdom for an hour absolutely heartbroken mum who’s lost a part of her? ☹️
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