In the last month my son has self harmed twice. The first time I found out about it we where putting together a monitor on his desk and I noticed it, he wasn't trying to hide it, but he had been he told me later on. I see that as a good sign, that he didn't hide it from me, and owned up to it when I asked him. I've been through a lot of stuff in my life, and at the time I just didn't think that taking away the few tools he has was the solution. Well I know it's not the solution, but he's done it again. The first time he self harmed, on his own he gave me the thing he used. He said, " Here you can take this ". So I thought that was a great sign. None the less today on the ride home from school I noticed him hiding the self harm. So I asked him if I could see if the previous self harm where healing good ( and they were, I knew that already ). It didn't take much to get him to show me that he had self harmed again.   So my son is seeing a therapist for about four months prior to him self harming for the first time. He's on medicine, but not enough time has passed to determine if it's helping yet. The kid is just depressed! He doesn't know what he's depressed about, he just is. We have a very good family. Loving, and kind, there hasn't ever been any thing that would justify this type of depression. Well at least from my point of view their hasn't. But all that aside I'm wondering should I take his tools away. When I found out today that he had done it again I asked him if he would give me the tool he did it with. He then asked me, "Do I have a choice" and my reply was, "You always have a choice". So I didn't get the tool this day.   I'm thinking of taking his tools away because while he has a choice not to give them to me, I to have a choice. I have the choice of walking in their and taking them from him. I understand that taking away ever tool in the house won't solve the problem. I get that. But I don't want to signal to him that by leaving them in the house, I'm condoning it. So I know people will have an opinion on this and maybe that will help me to decide whether I should or shouldn't remove the tools from his room. He's got like five or six. Just old tools from myself and my father and grandfather. We gave them to him, you know like passing them down. Anyways, thanks for any help   Chad ... View more