Hi froggirl, I awoke 2 weeks ago to a video sent to me on snapchat by my 14 yr old son of him smoking bongs.. Clearly I wasn't the intended viewer!! I cried for about 24 hours, I told him I was heartbroken, felt sick and was beyond disappointed! He was mortified and begged me to forget I even saw it, said it was a 'sometimes thing' and he hadn't done it often. I didn't believe much of that. I also didn't know whether to contact the parent of the house he was staying at, and in the end, I didn't. He's been banned from going to said mates house again. I didn't bother grounding him this time. It doesn't seem to do achieve anything. I think my utter disappointment was punishment in itself. He now knows he's lost my trust and he's on a short leash for a while.. Trouble is, he is hanging around with the wrong crowd and I knew some of them smoked dope. He always convinced me he didn't/wouldn't. I was stupid to believe that one. I knew this happen eventually. I don't know where I go from here. I see your post is 3 weeks old. Have you talked with him about it yet? How did it go?
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