Thanks for your reply. I talk with my son all the time. My husband says I am too much of his friend more than his parent. I try to be both, to keep the lines of communication open. That has worked so far. School aren’t much help, they are kind of fed up with him not doing the work expected. They have a psychologist, my son doesn’t want to talk with him. I called parent line a while back. Before I knew he was smoking but no real solutions were offered. It was more of a way for me to vent. I have to wait till July 20 till I myself can see a psychologist, to hopefully give me strategies to cope. I have my own issues and anxiety disorder, so I find I don’t cope probably as well as I should. Thanks. ... View more

Hi. I have boys, but they both stopped wanting to be seen out with me at that age too. I find the best way to get my kids to do things with me, is to let them bring a friend. I know that’s a bit hard during covid though.. ... View more

Hi worried1976 I just stumbled across your post. I'm curious to know how things have turned out with your son, 3 years down the track? ... View more

Hi and thanks or your reply.   I’ve been reading the forum and noticed there’s hundreds of views and not many replies. Most of the replies are from mods. Is this not really an active parent forum? ... View more

Hi froggirl,   I awoke 2 weeks ago to a video sent to me on snapchat by my 14 yr old son of him smoking bongs.. Clearly I wasn't the intended viewer!! I cried for about 24 hours, I told him I was heartbroken, felt sick and was beyond disappointed! He was mortified and begged me to forget I even saw it, said it was a 'sometimes thing' and he hadn't done it often. I didn't believe much of that.   I also didn't know whether to contact the parent of the house he was staying at, and in the end, I didn't.   He's been banned from going to said mates house again. I didn't bother grounding him this time. It doesn't seem to do achieve anything. I think my utter disappointment was punishment in itself. He now knows he's lost my trust and he's on a short leash for a while..   Trouble is, he is hanging around with the wrong crowd and I knew some of them smoked dope. He always convinced me he didn't/wouldn't. I was stupid to believe that one. I knew this happen eventually. I don't know where I go from here.   I see your post is 3 weeks old. Have you talked with him about it yet? How did it go? ... View more