Hi @Seeker ,
First of all, I just wanted to say how incredibly brave and strong you have been in sharing your story with us. I can only imagine how stressful and exhausting the past couple of weeks must have been for yourself and your family. It makes perfect sense that after what has happened you're feeling a bit rattled, devastated, and hurt.
When those we love are struggling with their own issues, the fallout can often affect ourselves, and others we hold close. Unfortunately, a lot of the time all we can do is damage control, and try and minimize as much of the negative consequences. However, part of this is learning how to prioritize yourself. As unnatural as it may feel , it's important to keep yourself safe - physically, mentally, and emotionally - so that when he is ready to change he does have someone who can support him. In this situation you did the best you could, and I think it's very important to take some time to recognise the incredible resilience and effort you have shown.
I noticed earlier in the thread that you mentioned that you had a therapist. It's really great that you have a professional support to lean on during this time. Do you have another session booked with them soon? It might be very helpful to be able to chat about this with someone face to face.
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Hi @Maggiecoco ,
It must be incredibly concerning as parents to see your son going through this, especially when it's been a relatively recent and sudden change. From what you've said, it sounds like he's a good kid with a lot of skills and interests - is he still playing any sports?
You mentioned that he'd had an admission to Emergency with a a Xanax overdose, I'm just wondering if he was linked in with any drug and alcohol support services when he was there? As you say, it's really difficult to convince people to seek help when they don't think they need it, or don't want to engage with counsellors, but there's a lot of support services that you can access through local area health services (I've linked an example here https://sydneynorthhealthnetwork.org.au/mentalhealthtriage/alcohol-and-other-drugs/)
It's great that he has ambitions for future training and going to TAFE, and hopefully that can be a motivating factor for him to change his behaviour - do you know anyone who's already in that line of work? I am wondering if having someone else to talk about his future interests could be helpful at all, and give him a bit of motivation to get back to school so that he can enter TAFE when he's old enough .
I can't imagine how frustrating and worrying this situation must be for you and your family- I hope that things improve for you all soon.
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Hi @Keddie, It is really great to hear that you have a number of supports around you. It sounds like your journey is still ongoing and we wish your family the best for your son's upcoming stay. We always welcome you to continue to share any updates All of the threads on ReachOut are public. Another parent has made this thread titled 'Addicted to weed' which you have commented on. This will notify them and any other parents who have posted on the same thread. We have different thread areas and so users can find this thread by looking through the areas or typing in the search bar. Our homepage also shows the most recently 'active' threads as well. We always welcome parents to make their own thread so that they can have a space to share their story. Threads can get crowded with lots of parents posting.. and sometimes it can result in a parent not receiving the support they came here for It can also be easier for others to find which is always helpful! We also appreciate parents sharing their experience on other parent's threads, as some parents may not look for other threads.
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