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Emily-RO · ‎11-26-2021

Thank you for sharing this with us @Lonely It sounds like what you are going through is very difficult at the moment and we're glad that you can talk about it here. I am sorry to hear about the situation and it sounds like a very difficult time for you and your family. There are many members of our community that have been through similar experiences. You are not alone and we're glad that you're here. I want to say that it must be incredibly difficult to be fully present at work and at home with your boyfriend away so often. Your concerns around custody are also very valid and I’m glad that your son has such a caring parent. I want to check in and make sure that you are supported during this difficult time. Do you have any supports for yourself? (e.g. friends, other family or professional support). Would you be open to us exploring some options with you? There are some helplines for parents that may be supportive. They also may be able to give you some tips on how you may approach the situation with your boyfriend and your son. Thank you again for sharing, Lonely. The community is here for you.

Emily-RO · ‎11-24-2021

Hi @Beatendown2 Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm sorry to hear that you're having some challenges with your step-daughter. You're definitely not alone and I'm glad that this community can help you feel supported.

Emily-RO · ‎11-12-2021

Thank you for sharing this with us @Paula09 It sounds like what you are going through is very difficult at the moment and we're glad that you can talk about it here. I am sorry to hear about your daughter and it sounds like a very difficult time for both her and you. Sometimes self-harm can be very complex and reasons for engaging can be very complicated. I was wondering if you would like to read some resources that may be helpful? Here is a fact sheet about teenagers and self-harm and some tips for supporting your teenager with self-harm as a parent. I also want to check in and make sure that you are supported during this difficult time. Do you have any supports for yourself? (e.g. friends, other family or professional support). Would you be open to us exploring some options with you? There are many members of our community that have been through similar experiences. You are not alone and we're glad that you're here.

Emily-RO · ‎11-10-2021

Thank you for sharing this with us @Mommyof3girls It sounds like what you are going through is very difficult at the moment and we're glad that you can talk about it here. I am sorry to hear about the situation and it sounds like a very difficult time for your daughter and her boyfriend. I want to check in and make sure that you are supported during this difficult time. Do you have any supports for yourself? (e.g. friends, other family or professional support). Would you be open to us exploring some options with you? There are some helplines for parents that may be supportive. They also may be able to give you some tips on how you may approach the situation with your daughter's boyfriend.

Emily-RO · ‎11-10-2021

Welcome to the forums @Annco ! We're glad to have you here. It sounds like you've had a challenging, but rewarding journey as a parent. I've responded to your other post but just wanted to say hi here as well 😊

Emily-RO · ‎11-10-2021

Thank you for sharing this with us @Annco It sounds like what you are going through is very difficult at the moment and we're glad that you can talk about it here. I am sorry to hear about your experience with your daughter and it sounds like a very difficult time for you, her, and your family. I want to check in and make sure that you are supported during this difficult time. Do you have any supports for yourself? (e.g. friends, other family or professional support). Would you be open to us exploring some options with you? There are some helplines for parents that may be helpful. They are very experienced in these areas and can share some tips for you as well. I want to share with you that your daughter’s behaviour sound very familiar to me. When I was younger, I was going through a difficult time and I found it really difficult to speak with my mum. We’ve repaired our relationship down the line and reflected on the time when it was hardest for us. Her experience sounds very similar to yours and I want to say that it’s fantastic that you’re so willing to try with her. I really appreciated the support my mum gave me, even though I couldn’t or wouldn’t express it at the time. I personally think that writing her something would be great because when I was in a bad headspace, it was hard for me to have conversations because I would get very emotional. Having something written helped me to not misunderstand things and I could read it over in calmer and quieter times. This might not work for you and your daughter, but I want to share that it is something that worked for me and my mum. There are many members of our community that have been through similar experiences. You are not alone and we're glad that you're here.

Emily-RO · ‎11-05-2021

Hi @Fullerp Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. It is hard when we don't get the support that we need. I definitely agree that it's important to seek help and that health professionals can be a great source of support for people with BPD.

Emily-RO · ‎11-05-2021

Thank you for sharing this with us @Bluepools It sounds like what you are going through is very difficult at the moment and we're glad that you can talk about it here. I am sorry to hear about your daughter and it sounds like a very difficult time for both you and her. Would you like to share more about what has happened? I want to check in and make sure that you are supported during this difficult time. Do you have any supports for yourself? (e.g. friends, other family or professional support). Would you be open to us exploring some options with you? There are some helplines for parents that may be supportive. There are many members of our community that have been through similar experiences. You are not alone and we're glad that you're here.

Emily-RO · ‎11-03-2021

Thank you for sharing this with us @Imoverwhelmed It sounds like what you are going through is very difficult at the moment and we're glad that you can talk about it here. I am sorry to hear about your daughter and it sounds like a very difficult time for her and you. I want to first say that I don't think you are a lousy parent, but instead, I'd like to thank you for finding a therapist and coming here immediately. Sometimes self-harm can be very complex and reasons for engaging can be very complicated. I was wondering if you would like to read some resources that may be helpful? Here is a fact sheet about teenagers and self-harm and some tips for supporting your teenager with self-harm as a parent. I also want to check in and make sure that you are supported during this difficult time. Do you have any supports for yourself? (e.g. friends, other family or professional support). Would you be open to us exploring some options with you? There are many members of our community that have been through similar experiences. You are not alone and we're glad that you're here.

Emily-RO · ‎11-03-2021

Thank you for sharing this with us @kidfitmindset Firstly, I’d like to celebrate how great it is that you’re taking an interest in your student’s passions. I can speak from my experience that I was/am definitely interested in this area, and it would have been fantastic for my teacher to have taken an interest and supported me in pursuing my passion. There is a tendency to vilify technology because of its newness, but I think that it has definitely opened up many new opportunities for young people. There is a rise of “content creators” and professional video gamers who are creating new norms and demonstrating that it’s okay to pursue what you love. There are some helpful resources that may help you as a teacher to understand and support your students. There’s one here about “Young people as content creators, managers and distributors” and another here about “Why it’s important to understand students’ needs and interests”. I want to thank you again for your support for your students and I’m sure there are community members here who will comment on their experiences too.

Emily-RO · ‎11-03-2021

Thank you for sharing this with us @maryma It sounds like what you are going through is very difficult at the moment and we're glad that you can talk about it here. I am sorry to hear about your daughter and it sounds like a very difficult time for her, her, and her other loved ones. Sometimes suicidal thoughts can be very complex and I understand your confusion with her seeming “normal”. I was wondering if you would like to read some resources that may be helpful? Here is a fact sheet about teenagers and suicide and some tips for supporting your teenager as a parent. I also want to check in and make sure that you are supported during this difficult time. Do you have any supports for yourself? (e.g. friends, other family or professional support). Would you be open to us exploring some options with you? There are many members of our community that have been through similar experiences. You are not alone and we're glad that you're here.

Emily-RO · ‎10-29-2021

Thank you for sharing this with us @Lady1401 It sounds like what you are going through is very difficult at the moment and we're glad that you can talk about it here. I am sorry to hear about the hardships in your relationship with your son. It's a complicated position for you to be in right now, considering his behaviour and the effect on you and your family. I want to check in and make sure that you are supported during this difficult time. Do you have any supports for yourself? (e.g. friends, other family or professional support). Would you be open to us exploring some options with you? I was also wondering if your son has engaged with any supports himself? There are many members of our community that have been through similar experiences. You are not alone and we're glad that you're here.

Emily-RO · ‎10-08-2021

Hi @feeling_lost and @rkt123 Thank you for sharing this with us. The situation with your sons sound complex and I want to acknowledge your bravery in sharing this with us and the support you have for your families. It is difficult for you to be there for your children, whilst also feeling fearful. I also want to check in and make sure that you are also supporting yourself during this difficult time. Do you have any supports for yourself? (e.g. friends, other family or professional support). You mention that there are other children involved in the situation. Would it be possible to know if there are some things in place to protect them?

Emily-RO · ‎10-08-2021

Hi @mum_questions Thank you for sharing this with us. It sounds like an incredibly difficult time for you both right now. I want to first say that it’s very clear how supportive and understanding you are with your child. It’s fantastic how you’ve been able to be understanding with them and how much you’ve worked to communicate with them. I don’t believe any of this is your fault and that you are being a very supportive parent. I’m really glad that you’re engaging with a psychologist and are getting professional support. I was wondering if you have any other supports like friends or family? With your child, I’d like to point out that the effects of domestic violence can have long-lasting and often unexpected effects. From what you’ve shared, it sounds like potentially their history with their father may have influences on their defensive reactions and hoarding behaviour. I know you mention that they are very intelligent and often reject mental health learning. I wonder if it would be an idea to explore some more options with them. Some examples include peer support where they can meet like-minded young people. Would you be open to exploring that? Thank you again. I want to reiterate that none of what is happened is either your fault or your child’s. It is a complex situation and you both deserve to be supported in the right way. Looking forward to hearing from you.

Emily-RO · ‎10-06-2021

Thank you for sharing this with us @Itisreal It sounds like what you are going through is very difficult at the moment and we're glad that you can talk about it here. I am sorry to hear about the hardships in your relationship with your son. It's a complicated position for you to be in right now, considering his mental health, substance use, concerns about his future, and your other children. I was wondering if you would consider seeking advice regarding your son’s substance use? I've seen that you're from the US and I want to let you know that there are professional support phone lines where you can seek advice here, and programs where your son can meet other young people that are on the same journey here. I also want to check in and make sure that you are also supporting yourself during this difficult time. Do you have any supports for yourself? (e.g. friends, other family or professional support). If you would like other supports, I would recommend calling one of these helplines as they are also for families who support young people with mental health and substance challenges. There are many members of our community that have been through similar experiences. You are not alone and we're glad that you're here.

Emily-RO · ‎10-06-2021

Hi @LadyM Thank you for sharing this with us. It sounds like a really difficult time for you both right now. I'm glad to hear that you reached out to the guidance counselor and that you're willing to share your experiences here. I personally can see a number of similarities between myself and your daughter. I love things like Roblox and am often uninterested by makeup. It's hard when you can't find people with similar interests, and it's especially hard at school when peer pressure is prevalent. Something that may help is to support her to find people who like Roblox and video games outside of school. For me, the thing that really helped my mental health was finding people that were like-minded. There are a number of "Girls' Coding Course in Roblox" groups online where she can not only meet other young people who have shared interests, but also learn! Apart from finding community spaces for your daughter, I was wondering if you or her would consider engaging with a professional to help with the emotions or navigating your relationship? It's really lovely to hear that you care so much for her and are asking for support. I know there are a number of other parents on these forums that have similar experiences and I'm sure they will share. Thank you again.

Emily-RO · ‎10-01-2021

Hi @AOEilyasm3 I just wanted to check-in with you. How are you feeling? It's really hard when the people we care for are going through something difficult. I'm glad that your grandson has such an empathetic grandmother like you looking out for him! I was wondering if you had a chance to look at our articles about teenagers and depression here and here? Or if you think your grandson would be open to talking with a professional?

Emily-RO · ‎09-17-2021

Thank you for sharing this with us @cinnamonspice It sounds like what you are going through is very difficult at the moment and we're glad that you can talk about it here. I am sorry to hear about the hardships in your relationship with your son. It's a complicated position for you to be in right now, considering your location, financial situation, and the court. I was wondering if you could seek legal advice about the custody schedule. I've seen that you're from the US and I want to let you know that there are legal aid offices throughout the States. Legal aid offices are not-for-profit agencies that provide free legal help to people who cannot afford to hire a lawyer. They can help with family law, such as child custody. Legal aid lawyers have the same qualifications as other lawyers. Everything you say to your lawyer is confidential, which means that it is not shared with anyone outside of the legal aid office. You can find out more here. I also want to check in and make sure that you are also supporting yourself during this difficult time. Do you have any supports for yourself? (e.g. friends, other family or professional support). If you would like other supports, I would recommend calling one of these helplines for mental health help. There are many members of our community that have been through similar experiences. You are not alone and we're glad that you're here.

Emily-RO · ‎09-17-2021

Thank you for sharing this with us @Parents4ever It sounds like what you are going through is very difficult at the moment and we're glad that you can talk about it here. I am sorry to hear that your daughter seems to be reacting negatively to your requests. It seems like you have been very supportive of her in the past and that she does not seem to recognise your efforts. It's a hard position for you to be in right now, considering your financial situation, relationship, and your daughter's pregnancy. It is possible that she does not understand the gravity of your situation and that your request is not reflective of your care for her. I was wondering if you could try talking more with your daughter, perhaps from a different angle. Another option could be to get support from a mediator. This is where a trained, neutral third party can help you both problem-solve together to find a solution. Some more information about mediation and how to access it can be found here. I also want to check in and make sure that you are also supporting yourself during this difficult time. Do you have any supports for yourself? (e.g. friends, other family or professional support). If you would like other supports, I would recommend calling one of these helplines for mental health help.

Emily-RO · ‎09-17-2021

Thank you for sharing this with us @anhminoi I'm so sorry to hear that you and your daughter are going through such a difficult time right now. Realising that your child is self-harming can come as a shock. It can help to start with learning what self-harm is and the common reasons for it. Then, you can consider practical first steps and understand what you can do to support your child or another young person who is self-harming. Here is a resource for parents to learn about self-harm. It can be difficult to understand why your child has resorted to self-harming behaviour, and it’s important to listen and understand rather than judge. Here are some tips for supporting your daughter with self-harm as a parent. Whatever the reason, it’s important to support your daughter to get professional help. This can help her recognise why she is doing it and learn new skills and behaviours for managing. I'm glad that you are looking for a psychologist. Here is a psychologist search to find local professionals in your area. You can filter for the location, area of speciality, and demographic. The link I have included is for youth and self-harm in NSW. There are also other options that are online or via phone for you and your daughter. Kids Helpline is free, private and confidential 24/7 phone and online counselling service for young people aged 5 to 25. eheadspace provides free online and telephone support and counselling to young people 12 - 25 and their families and friends. Lifeline is a 24/7 crisis support service with phone and chat options. There are also our ReachOut Youth Forums where she can find peer support, and our articles about self harm that may help I also want to check in and make sure that you are also supporting yourself during this difficult time. Do you have any supports for yourself? (e.g. friends, partner, family or professional support). If you would like other supports, I would recommend using Lifeline or eheadspace to seek support for yourself as a parent. Please note that I have edited your post to remove your location, but you can use the links to search more specifically to your local area.

Emily-RO · ‎09-10-2021

Hi @Kat1996 Thank you for sharing this with us and asking for support. It sounds like both you and your son are having a really tough time at the moment. Children with ADHD often have lots of energy and difficulty concentrating. They might also find it hard to control what they say or do. ADHD diagnosis requires a specialist (child psychiatrist or paediatrician) assessment. If your child is diagnosed with ADHD, these observations then inform a support plan that aims to ensure your child can flourish and achieve their full potential. I've seen that you live in the UK, so I've found a few resources that might be helpful for you. There's Young Minds who have Tips for supporting your child with ADHD and also ADHD Kids UK that have a list of helpful resources and places you can go to for support. I was wondering if you would consider reaching out to these services? There's a number of people in this community that have shared their experience with their children and ADHD, and can potentially help. @sapphire @Jarmstead29 @JAKGR8 @jamesmatt @Happytimes

Emily-RO · ‎09-03-2021

Hi @ShayHay25 thank you for sharing this with us. It can be really difficult to know how to talk to your teen about coronavirus, especially if you’re feeling stressed about it yourself. It's important to manage how you're feeling about this. Try to have a conversation when you’re feeling ready. This could mean putting up some boundaries around conversations. It might be helpful to talk about your teen's media intake. Ask your teen what media they have been consuming (from the news and social media) about coronavirus. Check if they are aware that some stories about COVID-19 may be based on rumours or incorrect information. You could help them to build their media literacy skills by asking of a particular story: Who’s creating this news? Is it credible? What’s the source? Discuss whether they would be willing to limit their media intake about COVID-19 to checking the internet just a few times a day. Explain that this will help them not to be too overwhelmed by constant updates. I'm also wondering if you would like some resources that might help. There is a helpful resource here about how to talk about coronavirus with your teenager. There is another here about effective communication with teenagers. I hope these help and we look forward to talking more with you.

Emily-RO · ‎09-03-2021

Hi @Faob_1 Thank you for sharing this with us. It sounds like what you're experiencing right now is incredibly difficult and I'm glad that you can talk about it here. I'm sorry that you had such a triggering experience. It's hard to manage our emotions when they feel like a flood. Some experiences can trigger memories and emotions, and it can feel like we're trapped in the past. There's a helpful resource here on how to manage thoughts when they feel like a flood. Also, here is a resource that may help dealing with triggering news. I'm also wondering if it might help to talk with a professional about how you're feeling? You're experiencing a lot and you do not have to manage it on your own. It sounds like your son is helping his girlfriend and she is improving her behaviour in your home. I'm wondering if you think that talking with your son or her might help the situation? It might be good to get to know her and challenge some of your previous conceptions about her. Here is a helpful resource on with how you can talk with your son or his girlfriend. Thanks again, and I look forward to talking more.

Emily-RO · ‎08-20-2021

Hi @Tek1971 Thank you for sharing this with us. We're glad you're here and can talk about it with us. I'm sorry to hear that you and your son are going through this. It sounds like you both have tried different forms of support, and are now seeking other options. I'm wondering what your son's thoughts are on stopping school and focusing on his health. Do you think it would help to speak with him about how he feels about that? You spoke about your son self-harming. I'm wondering if you've spoken with him about things that could help when he's feeling like self-harming? Thank you again for sharing. You're definitely not alone and there are many parents in the community who will be able to share similar experiences.

Emily-RO · ‎08-18-2021

Hi @Giffordm Thank you for sharing with us. It sounds like a difficult situation and we're glad you can talk about it here. Co-parenting can often be complex and come with unforseen challenges. It sounds like you have tried to be understanding and flexible, but you haven't felt like you're receiving that in return. I'm sorry to hear about how she reacted to the hair dye. Do you think it might help to talk with her more about why she wants to be a part of decisions like this? It might help to understand each other better and develop an ongoing plan for co-parenting. I'm also wondering how are the children feeling in the situation? Would it help to talk with them? Thank you again for sharing.

Emily-RO · ‎08-18-2021

Hi @Ilovemykids4 Thank you for sharing with us. I'm sorry to hear that your son and you are going through a hard time right now. You're definitely right that mental health and physical health are linked. It's great that you're here and looking for support for you and your son. I hope that by being here, you know that you are not alone. Thank you again for sharing.

Emily-RO · ‎08-11-2021

Hi Gordi 😊 Welcome to the forums! I'm really sorry to hear that these past few years have been hard for you and your family. I'm glad that what other people have said have made you feel less alone. I'm sure that your experience that can help others too. Spickeled de me is so funny! That's so lovely that he also knows every atom! Sounds like a person of science! Thank you again for sharing and welcome again 😊

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