I was looking for some information when I came across your post - I feel your pain.  My 22 year old daughter has accused me of the worst crimes - I don't love her, I don't care if she lives, I am a horrible mother, I love my other daughters more - and on it goes.  I also had such a great relationship with her until she hit 18 and the she became someone I do not know.  It is only getting worse.  I had to block her after a severe outburst to protect myself.  The guilt never ends.  Could I have done more?  Am I the reason?  My thoughts and emotions are such a mess.  I know in my head what she is saying is not true but my heart is crushed with each word she speaks.  I hope your daughter ended up getting help?  How are you doing?  Much of this illness is a result of abandonment, her father disappeared a few years ago and she felt it most.  I was left trying to pick up the pieces and clearly, was not successful.  At what point do we forgive ourselves for having to turn away from the abuse? I pray for all of us in this situation, that somehow, sometime, we find the peace our children refuse to pursue.  ... View more