Hi there @Squivvel ,
Firstly, Welcome to the ReachOut Parents forum!
Thank you for reaching out and sharing what has been happening for you and your son. It must be so difficult to hear and watch your son struggle with suicidal thoughts, yet not be able to help him.
It sounds like you have a very close relationship with your son in that he confides in you about how he is feeling.
From reading your post, it really sounds like he could do with some support and connection. Do you think he would be willing to start with perhaps Telehealth services whereby you make a warm referral? Or if he agrees, you be on the line at the same time as he is (support person) - even to start off with until he is more comfortable?
While some prefer face-to-face appointments, others have found Telehealth very helpful in that there is a 'barrier' of not being have to be in the same room as the other person.
Some also find Webchats preferable to talking.
Depending on the age of your son, he may be able to utilise ReachOut's youth services e.g. Peer Chat, Youth Forums ; Headspace
Otherwise, if he wants to talk through some of these suicidal thoughts, he may want to contact Lifeline (webchat, sms texting, phone) ; Beyond Blue
We hear he is reluctant to reach out. However, with so many multi-modal options, he may find just one that works?
It is probably also important that he feels empowered to make the decision to better himself. It may be just providing him with a few options, say 2, then leaving them with him to decide whether he wants to contact them, ask you to help him contact them, or wait until he's ready.
Sometimes a gentle question, "Do you want things to change?" may be the ultimate question to help him make the first move.
At the same time, we also want to acknowledge everything you are doing to support your son. We hope you have also found ways to be supported.
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