09-06-2020 08:51 AM - last edited on 09-07-2020 02:35 PM by Janine-RO
My 17 son has developed such a high level of anxiety around schoolwork that he is unable to join his online classes or to do any schoolwork. He’s missed most of this term and I can’t see how he can pass the year. He is now also scared to leave the house so I don’t know how he would be able to return to the classroom if they do return to face to face learning.
He is talking to a psychologist and we are trying to get him in to see a psychiatrist.
In the meantime his school keeps telling me that we can get through this. While I’m terrified of the impact on his future of not finishing year 11, I’m just not sure how and if we can make this work.
If I push him to try and work he has major anxiety attacks, but I feel like I should keep trying in case we can somehow get through year 11.
If we give up and let him stop school I’m worried that he will become isolated from
friends and even more incapable of leaving the house. I just don’t know what to do.
09-06-2020 07:09 PM
Hello @Lozzamuzz, sorry to hear that your son has been experiencing such high anxiety lately. That must be hard on both of you. It sounds like you have been really involved in your son’s life which is really great to hear. I am sure that he appreciates the great support that you have been providing. Getting support from a psychologist was a great move and I hope that he has been finding it to be helpful.
It is also good that you have been communicating with the school around this, it sounds like they want to support you and your son in the best way possible, so that he can complete what is required for this year. Would you be able to talk with someone from the school about developing a plan of some sort for your sons academic requirements? You might find that having the requirements and plans mapped out helps to ease some of the uncertainty around your son’s school year. Have the psychologists given you or your son any tips for how he could manage his school course load? If not, this might be something that you can ask the psychologist about as they might be able to develop some strategies with your son to ensure that he can get through some school work successfully.
I hope that things get better for your family soon
09-06-2020 07:44 PM
09-06-2020 09:40 PM
Hi @Lozzamuzz, it sounds like things are so uncertain right now and I can't imagine how worried you must be feeling. You have taken all the right steps in reaching out to a number of services which can be exhausting in itself. It really is a shame that the psychologist doesn't seem to be helping. It can be so frustrating to reach out to a service and not receive appropriate support. I know it can feel quite bold and straight forward but I am wondering if you have told the psychologist about the type of support you are after? It might also be worth seeking a second opinion if that is possible. I really hope that you are able to get in contact with a psychiatrist soon - it sounds like they might be able to offer another perspective.
If you are interested, we also offer a free professional service that provides one on one support. You can read more about it here.
Please feel welcome to keep us updated
10-09-2020 07:51 PM
10-24-2020 06:39 PM
10-25-2020 12:00 PM
Hi @Lozzamuzz, thank you for updating us. I am sorry to hear that you had to withdraw your son from school. It sounds like it was the right decision for your family albeit a really hard one to make. Having a job can be such a rewarding experience for young people. Good luck with the job searching! Is your son still involved with the psychiatrist?
10-26-2020 10:54 AM
The same thing has happened to my son (17yr yr11), he has withdrawn from school, attempted a tafe course which he could also not complete and now he is looking for a job.
It looks scary at the moment but as long as we keep them in good spirits they will find their place.
03-02-2021 09:53 PM
03-03-2021 01:50 PM
Hi @whirly ,
Thanks so much for sharing your experiences here, how is your daughter doing now? The transition to e-learning was rough for so many young people, has your daughter returned to school in person now?
@hk012 I'm so sorry to hear that your son also had such a tough time, how did he go finding work? Has he had any professional support to help him with his mental health at all? I think you're spot on, supporting young people with their mental health truly is so important - and I'm sure he will find his path with such supportive people in his life.