Mmmm I see. I can understand why that would be hard.
It really is tricky. It would be awful to feel ignored like that. At the same time, it is his daughter, and it is important that he maintains a good relationship with her for her own mental health. That is not to say that rules, boundaries and respect aren't important. They are...but it really is tricky in these types of situations - and a lot of your next steps depend on the dynamics of your relationship.
Given that you can't really change his daughter's actions, and because it does seem to be getting to you quite a bit, I'm wondering if thinking about the situation a little differently might help. For instance, the next time the daughter does something that upsets you, try and notice the things that you tell yourself, and then maybe try to challenge some of the unhelpful things. E.g., if you catch yourself saying "she's ignoring me. She hates me. Maybe I've done something wrong." you can challenge it by saying "well, she's a young girl, she's going through her own issues at the moment, there's nothing wrong with me and I'm not going to take it personally."Or you could try telling yourself "well, it is the way it is, all I can do is continue to be diplomatic and hope that things improve." Of course, there's always the option of moving out like you said, but that just depends on how you feel and what you really want.
I thought I'd tag a few other parents to see if they have any insights for you.
@JAKGR8 @compassion @PeteNorthside @sidneysdad @Zayray @Pammy62 @Jac_a_T @Ngaio-RO
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