Hi @Desparatemum ,
That sounds like an incredibly difficult situation for you and your family, I can imagine that it would have been an awful feeling having to call the police when your son became abusive like that.
There's some great support services that will be able to give specialised advice around a FVRO :
In Western Australia, the Domestic Violence Helpline gives specialised support, you can contact them on 1800 007 339- because the specifics of domestic violence orders are different between the states, they're probably in the best position to give you specific advice about the implications of taking out the order, and can also refer you to other local services that can give you some more support.:
The Domestic Violence Helpline is a state wide 24 hour service. It provides information, support and referral for people experiencing family and domestic violence as well as for those who are concerned about their violent and abusive behaviours. Help can include phone counselling, liaison with police if necessary, support in escaping situations of family and domestic violence and referral to safe accommodation.
This service can also provide information about accessing legal advice, accommodation and other support services for people who have been served with a violence restraining order. (https://www.dss.gov.au/women/help-is-here-campaign)
1800 RESPECT are another excellent service who are available 24/7 with specialist counsellors who are really skilled and knowledgeable about family violence.
I can imagine that it must be such a stressful experience for your whole family, you deserve to feel safe in your own home- do you have any other children? Is your son still attending school at the moment? I'm also wondering if your son has ever seen any mental health professionals at all?
We have heard in the past from parents who've been through similar experiences with their kids - I just thought I would link to this thread here, in case it's helpful for you to read about other people's experiences. Thinking of you and your family -please keep us posted on how you're getting on.
Thanks for your quick response, let us know how you go with looking into the services Janine suggested, I hope they are helpful.
That does sound very frustrating that your son is keen on school or work at the moment, we have a content piece here on school refusal that some other parents have found useful if you wanted to have a look.
I'm really glad to hear that you and your husband are getting some counselling, you deserve to have support too <3 How is that going for you both? I understand ideally you wanted this to include your son, is this something you could maybe talk to your counsellor about in future?