11-01-2023 09:28 AM
11-01-2023 12:13 PM
Oh @Sandee, What a huge morning! Are you ok? How are you going? Do you feel a bit better that it's all out?
I think you have shown such amazing strength. That would have been really difficult and I'm sure you are questioning and replaying the events but you showed your support and you have made your expectations clear. It's great that you got to say the things that you wanted him to hear. You are completely right, the choice is up to him now...but for him to know that you are there to support him with whatever decision he makes is something he is extremely fortunate to have. I hope he realises this.
I am thinking of you. Deep breaths. I am here and wishing that this is start of things moving forward. Yes they may go a little backwards but I think you've taken a huge step. Well done you! Stay strong and big hugs. Thinking of you. xx
11-01-2023 12:39 PM
Thank you xx. Yes a huge meaning and it's still going. At around 9 ish I was having a sower and he calls out Mum I said yes im in the shower he said can I have breakfast. I said yes im in the shower but ill come show you how to cook the eggs as soon as im done.
I went into his room and said ok I can show you how to cook the eggs it's super simple. He said no you just do it. I said I need to show you as Im heading to see my mum thurs and I wont be here. He said well dad can do it. I said your dad will make you eggs if your up before he goes to work but he will not be coming home from work to cook them.
He started yelling saying go away . I said you dont need to speak like that please and left his room. !0 mins later he came down and said well are you taking me to school or what , I said oh ok I can as my appt isnt until 12.30 he said well you need to cook me eggs first. I said im happy to show you how to make your eggs he started saying well I was willing to go to school but now its your fault. I said I can take you to school if you get changed ( wasnt in uniform anyway) and if you dont want me to show you how to make eggs just grab a protein bar. He yelled shut stop talking. I asked him not to speak to me like that and said if you have any washing just bring it down he just yelled again and slammed the door.
He then starts calling my husband at work saying he cant go to school because I wont make him eggs. OMG .
Sadly my son needs to realise that at 15 he cannot speak to us or anyone like that. Also that life doesnt occur when he decides it does. He is trying to play us off each other and use emotional blackmail again to get what he wants. And as much as we want him to go to school I cannot play this game it is not helping him in anyway and its not helping us either.
I will always love and support him but I am no longer going to be his punching bag .
I feel it may be a very long day and tis is just the beginning . Hope your having a good day x
11-01-2023 12:49 PM
@Sandee You are amazing! I so admire how you handled all that. I love how you offered to show him how to make eggs and are not accepting the excuses but you keep giving him options which is awesome. You are so strong and might not be feeling it but I really take my hat off to you. It's his choice now so go you! I'm right here supporting you all the way, you're doing a great job. You and your husband are a strong bond so he won't be able to play you off each other. You are showing him you're not a punching bag but also showing love and support. He's very lucky! I have everything crossed for you. xx
11-01-2023 04:27 PM
Thank you @Sunshine72 I really appreciate the support it means alot. I had an appointment to go to and I knew it would be a few hours so I went upstairs before I left and let him know I was leaving and there was food in the fridge if he wanted to heat it up for lunch.
On my way home he text me saying im going out now.Im pretty sure he checked Life 360 as he knew I was on my way back . I replied Thanks for letting me know are you home for dinner. He didnt reply and now has his life 360 off. I was expecting that.
When I got home though he had heated up lunch so thats huge as he has never wanted to do that before. It will be a long night as he may not reply to any messages but I will try.
How has your day been so far ?
11-01-2023 07:39 PM
11-01-2023 07:47 PM
I got my hubby to text him when he was leaving work as we usually do to see if he needed a lift and he replied yes so he is home which is great. Im pretty sure he is still not happy with me as only grunted hello when I said hello as he walked inside. My hubby said to him in the car why didnt you go to school he said cause mum didnt make me eggs.
Anyway he has come down for dinner and is even chatty and now has organised to go to the gym for the first time in ages with his dad.
Fingers crossed nothing derails that xx
Did your son have dinner first or will he come home in time for that?
11-01-2023 07:54 PM
11-01-2023 08:03 PM
Hi @Sunshine72 Yes fingers crossed im not getting too excited just yet and its still a long way to go as you know the slightest thing can set him off but im taking it tonight for sure xxxx
11-01-2023 08:26 PM
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