10-02-2019 08:52 AM
10-02-2019 10:44 AM
Hi there @Black232Jack
Thank you for raising this topic here. From what you've described you have responded to this in a really positive way. Affirming your love and support, not making a huge deal of it but also checking in at a non-threatening time - these are all amazing ways of responding to your child coming out as pan-sexual.
It is a sensitive time for you both so it's also great that you're reaching out for support. I think all the emotions you are going through are really normal. Maybe you could try asking her to educate you about pan sexuality? That way she might feel empowered to speak about her identity and you will also be able to gauge how much she knows about it herself and what it means to her.
We have an article about helping your teen with coming out - you might wanna give it a read here.
There's also some great information and support available here for families through Twenty10 which is an LGBT+ organisation.
09-28-2020 04:36 AM
I know you posted this a long time ago, but I was wondering how everything turned out? I am in the same boat with my 12 year old daughter. She thinks she is pansexual, and I want to be supportive. I’m not sure how much is regular teenage finding herself, and how much is the heavy influence of discord.
09-28-2020 04:34 PM
Hi @Wiryg ,
It's great to hear that you're wanting to be supportive of your daughter, I'm also just tagging the original poster @Black232Jack so that they will see this
We have some great resources on ReachOut on teens and sexuality here- as you say, the teenage years are often a time when young people are working out their sexuality, and I think in the last 15 years or so there's a much richer understanding of all of the different forms sexuality may take - the experiences themselves may not be that different, but we may now have a more nuanced way of describing the way we feel, if that makes sense. It sounds like you're a loving and supportive parent, which is by far the most important thing.
11-05-2020 12:08 AM
11-05-2020 12:52 PM
So lovely to read about your support for your daughter and your desire to educate yourself Could you ask her to educate you? Teens are pretty amazing at telling us all sorts of things we have no idea about! Thank you for sharing, let us know how you go.