No respect for authority, lying and then not feeling sorry

[Sister]

I guess the school shall deal with the consequence of him not handing the phone in.

Teenagers change. It is part of his development to make mistakes and to learn.

Why don't you approve of the girl?

[Sister]

Is the school addressing his problems of inattention?

[sangeeta]

She has no manners and courtesy to greet and comes from a broken home where mother is not bothered about her and father is living with another woman. she's not a good influence on him. his grades fell last year since they met in a boxing class.

[sangeeta]

He's being nudged into more activities where he's in one place like art . otherwise he's good in studies and sports.

[Sister]

Thats great he enjoys the study and sport.

What profession is he interested in?

[sangeeta]

Architecture is what he's aiming at. thanks for this conversation sister

[Nick-RO]

Hi @sangeeta and welcome to the ReachOut Parents forums!  I just wanted to let you know that I merged your two posts together to make sure that you get the best responses from our amazing community.  I hope you don't mind.

[sangeeta]

no I don't mind. Both me and my husband are in a quandary how to address him when we meet him. He's not sounding apologetic , just saying for the sake of it.

[Luxmummy]

I hope you've been able to communicate your concerns with your son and he in turn has been able to share why he's making bad choices. I have three boys and my oldest starting his teenage years and it's difficult!! However, I've realized he needs to talk about his frustrations because emotionally things are changing and we build up expectations and forget that they need positive support to make them feel we're proud and together can fix the underlying issues. Set goals not rules!!

[Erin-RO]

Hi @sangeeta, perhaps as others were suggesting it might be worth having an open conversation with him, more so about why he kept the phone, rather than the fact he had the phone. You might find out that the phone was actually his way of feeling connected to others or to socialise with others?