05-04-2017 12:05 PM
Hey @wilsntomas302, I relate to your thought of adopting! I have an only child and she wishes she had siblings (and so do I! Just didn't work out that way). I contemplated that idea as well but feared what would happen if they didn't get along. We're searching for a solution, we just want to make our kids happy again!
Have a read of my previous response and see if any of that sits okay with you. It's such a hard place to be, watching our kids taking a different path to what society says is the norm. And if they're struggling in life it makes it even harder to see as a parent.
Let us know how things are going for your son. You've come to a community of loving parents, who care about each others situations too
01-02-2018 03:48 AM
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01-09-2018 01:27 PM
That sounds like its a tough situation for your son. Great that he enjoys family time (the irony is that I have posted about my teens HATING family time) .....
Just to clarify what happened with another boy at school last year? Was that a typo or if not what is billing?
Does he have online friends? I know that my son who doesn't really fit in easily with a lot of other kids has many online friends that of course are not the same but certainly fulfil a lot of the social needs we have as humans. And maybe if any of those online friends have similar interests and don't live too far away they could even meet up ? (Once the person is thoroughly checked out that they are who they are of course).
It is worrying when our teens are not comfortable in social groups, we just want to see them happy - but also some people are more introverted and gain their energy from their own company - or are just less socially geared than others. He may be like that all his life with a couple of close friends, or it may be a stage he is going through (and boy do our teens go through every stage imaginable and then some!)
Either way he clearly has a loving family and lots of support there which is wonderful - so I reckon keep him aware of his strengths, stay connected with him and he will work it out
01-09-2018 01:50 PM
01-09-2018 01:55 PM
our kids are changing so much at the moment that its hard to keep up with friends and friends groups sometimes.
Maybe the kid in the street started being friends with people your son didn't like? Or spent more time in sport? Hard to know isn't it. My daughter who is 16 is worried as her large friend group (very different to my son) is breaking into smaller groups as some try alcohol, hanging out in parks etc, others into other things, more are in relationships. Change - not easy to navigate with everything else going on in their world
Would he open up if you chatted to him about for example the boy in the street. Maybe start talking about the street etc and casually ask have you seen him lately? Often those conversations are good for the car when you aren't face to face haha
01-09-2018 01:55 PM
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