06-28-2018 10:54 AM - edited 06-28-2018 10:56 AM
06-28-2018 04:21 PM - edited 06-29-2018 11:08 AM
Hi @Hannahloulou016 , thanks for creating this thread , and again welcome !
I'm so sorry to hear your situation - it must be heartbreaking for you to see your sons making this decision . It sounds very much like they have followed their father's example, rather than yours - which might seem like the easier option for them at this point in their lives, but as you say, will not do well for their futures.
As they are still young, and not yet emotionally fully developed, I think there's a good chance they will continue to mature and come to see and appreciate the love and support you have shown them.
Other parents on the forum have had similar situations, and can hopefully offer you some insight from their experiences.
How is your relationship with your daughter?
I'm also wondering what support you have in place for yourself in all of this?
06-29-2018 09:18 AM
06-29-2018 11:01 AM
Thankyou. It is a daily struggle trying to reach them. There is aggression , yelling and abuse almost everyday. On the other hand my daughter is very much connected to me. She is concentrating on her school work and has a very mature approach to the whole situation. I keep positive vibes around her. She spends more time with me than her dad at the moment. Which is another affirmation. What is she getting that the others don't?
The boys are just off the rails and way to powerful for me. My eldest towers over me. So Im trying to use my words but they are not listening. Im not sure what you mean by support for myself? Emotional support? Financial ?
06-29-2018 11:04 AM - edited 06-29-2018 11:05 AM
Hey, Yes Im consistently trying to organise meetings , dinners etc. They have no time (apparently) always too busy. That hurts considering they are not at school and unemployed. Mothers Day was an absolute disaster as they spent it with their DAD..... I contact them everyday regardless. My daughter is different and Im trying to shelter her from them as much as possible and keep appositive outlook for her. So far she is doing very well. Shes an achiever and very easy to speak to . Feeling blessed with her.
06-29-2018 11:40 AM
@Hannahloulou016 great to hear that you have a strong relationship with your daughter. Must be so tough feeling disconnected from your sons though.
Sorry I should have clarified - by support for yourself I meant emotional - things are really challenging at the moment and its important you have your own support network whether it be counselling or one or two supportive friends or whatever is helpful to keep your emotional energy up!
As @Ashestogolddust has said - keep on keeping on, you're doing amazing to not give up on your sons and keep sending the message (no matter how much it feels like they're not hearing it), that you love and care for them.
06-29-2018 02:30 PM
06-29-2018 02:43 PM
@Hannahloulou016 this response is for your and I agree with what @Ashestogolddust has said. xx
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