11-22-2017 10:52 PM
Hi @Manly123 It was a real struggle to get the phone out of the room at night....It took a lot of tears and tantrums, but we persevered and it has had a real positive impact. We implemented a 9:30pm phone curfew on school nights for our 17 year old about 10 months. My daughters case manager had spoken to my daughter about having a break from social media when things got stressful or she was distressed for the sake of her health. This made the curfew easier to implement, as it wasn't just mum or dad's rule.
What we found helpful was replacing the phone with other distractions we could do together, like reading, puzzle books, chatting or brain games. The phone also comes with me at night to eliminate any distractions. After a while, she realised she can survive the night without her phone, and now hands the phone over most of the time with few problems. Perhaps other parents have some suggestions that may help too?
Make sure you stick with whatever decision you make.. it will get easier over time - Good luck!
04-08-2018 02:04 AM
04-08-2018 09:33 AM
Hey there @2busy_mother, wow this sounds like a very conflicting situation. I am definitely hearing that you care for your girl, and have taken into serious consideration how removing the phone may instigate higher levels of anxiety. But also that you really want to implement boundaries with her phone and start to figure out what's been going on with her, is that right? Has anything happened with your Daughter that you are aware of? Any peer bullying or major incidents? We have a great free service called ReachOut parents coaching I would recommend looking into, it provides great strategies around these sorts of challenges. Hope to hear from you soon.
05-24-2019 05:51 PM - last edited on 05-24-2019 06:57 PM by Taylor-RO
Teenage is one of the most fun, carefree, excited, and yet complicated part of life. It’s the chapter of our life book which holds the best and awkward memories. Yet teens tend to fall into major teenage health problems while growing up. We grow and experience the most in our life in our teens but might get into some serious problems as well.
Is your teen acting out?
Do they look tense and stressed?
There are various teenage health problems that can cause your teen different physical, cognitive and behavioral changes.
05-29-2019 02:22 PM
Thank you for making this post- I agree that teenage years are a time of dynamic change and growth. I am sure many of our members would also agree and see these changes in their teens as they grow!
Health issues, particularly mental health, can be a real challenge for a growing teen (and for the family too!). I really like that you have posed some questions to self reflect on how your teen is going. Looking to them for cues that maybe something is happening in their world is really important and can help parents know when their teen may need some more support.
One thing I have seen in our community is the incredible growing experience of teens and parents who work together through these tough and sometimes turbulent changes of adolescence. It has been really beautiful to hear from the parents whose teens are further into the journey who share with us their hope for a bright future- I hope that you will be able to see this shine through in this community too
03-04-2021 07:54 AM
03-04-2021 02:33 PM - edited 03-04-2021 02:43 PM
Hi there @Leo-mum5 I just wanted to jump on here and let you know that we are really feeling for you and your family. I can only imagine how heartbreaking this is for you to watch your daughter struggle so much. I hope the user who used residential mental health can provide you with some suggestions, in the meantime here is a search/information on Residential mental health support.
It's great that you have support for your daughter (even though it's a long wait for appointment, which is so hard) Just wondering if you are receiving support too? We are here to chat through anything you need.
03-18-2021 06:45 PM
03-18-2021 09:43 PM