04-09-2018 02:35 PM
04-09-2018 07:31 PM
Hi @MomOf4boys welcome to ReachOut and thank you for sharing this. I'm sorry to hear that things went downhill with your son after hurricane Harvey, I can only imagine how difficult that has been. It's great that you are standing your ground and want your children to be successful and happy. I will tag some of our members who may be able to provide you with some support and advice @Sister @taokat @sunflowermom @Schooner
04-10-2018 01:03 AM
I am sorry you are going through this with your 17 year old. I know its such a sticky situation when the other kids see the behavior of the older one. I am definitely going through that too. Sounds like you are a wonderful, loving, strong mom. I am so glad you are sticking to the rules in your house. I know that sometimes the rules get broken but you are doing your best. I can imagine its so stressful trying to deal with all this on your own. Do you are your son have open lines of communication or does he just shut you out completely? Hang in there and know that you are not alone. We are all going through similar situations. We don't have all the answers but we are here to listen to each other.
04-10-2018 06:22 PM
Hi @MomOf4boys thanks so much for posting, it sounds like you really possess a lot of love and concern for your son which is so beautiful. It's so interesting this very frequent pattern of seventeen year olds really beginning to test the boundaries of respect and self-restraint. You're definitely not alone. Your son is however a young man now, at almost 18, it is comprehensible he wants to meet his Father. Despite your experience with this man, for your Son, it is an understandable genetic yearning.
On this note however, I think it's incredible you are protecting your Son from him, as hard as it is for you, could you come to some sort of agreement that when he is eighteen you will support him with his questions? A family counsellor could help the two of you work through this. In regards to living with the girlfriend, I totally hear your concerns. Have you had a chance to speak with her parents at all?
Are you located in the USA? Look forward to hearing from you!
04-10-2018 09:25 PM
04-10-2018 09:37 PM
04-10-2018 09:39 PM
That was heartwarming that he calls to wish you and his brothers a good dinner. In my opinion that fact that you have good communication is one of the most important parts. Keeping in contact hopefully eases your mind a little when he is not at home. I think it is amazing that you are being patient and reminding him that you are all there for him. You are so right that we never stop worrying about our kids. Hugs to you.