09-19-2019 08:27 AM - last edited on 09-19-2019 09:03 AM by Bre-RO
Found a vaping unit in my son's room. I am so upset. What's next? I am so stressed out. My son is a great kid. Gets great grades and is working. Where do I go from here? I have no one to talk to about this.
Thanks
Angel
09-19-2019 01:33 PM
Hi @Angel0713
It sounds like you are very concerned about the vaping unit you found.
Have you asked your son about it ?
I would suggest that if you haven't that is a great place to start.
My experience with raising difficult issues is to make sure the time and location are suitable.
Effective communication involves a lot of things.. far to much to cover in a brief post but here are some of the keys ones I focus on:
Make sure you are
When you raise the issue
And above all Seek to understand before being understood.
09-19-2019 02:11 PM - edited 09-19-2019 02:14 PM
Hi @Angel0713
Welcome to ReachOut forums and thank you for coming here to share with us It sounds like this has caught you off guard - no wonder you're feeling so stressed.
I think @PapaBill has provided some really useful tips. Do you think you'd be able to have a conversation with your son about what you found?
Know that we are here for you to talk to
Also just wanted to give you a heads up that I did need to edit your post as some of the content went against out community guidelines. Feel free to have a read of them here if you have some time.
09-21-2019 03:00 PM
Hi Angel,
If I may share, the first time I saw my son vaping, I directly talked to him on what's going to happen if he continued using it. I guess he valued what I;ve shared and did not continue using it anymore.