06-02-2018 01:09 PM
Hey @hippychick, quite a few people chiming in here to offer their support and advice. There isn't much else to say that hasn't been beautifully said already. I will add that I can tell you are putting a lot of thought and consideration into your son and his education which is really lovely to see You are doing an awesome job!
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06-04-2018 05:11 PM
Hi @hippychick, I would definitely talk to the principal and the school counsellor about this as him attending 4 days is something that they can actually work with. You don't want him to be overwhelmed and refuse to go at all, and I think your arrangement with your son is ideal.
I wish I'd pushed harder while my daughter was at high school for a better arrangement as she has now has to go to tafe and is failing with attendance in adult education. There aren't the supports, I have no contact with teachers and know nothing about how she is progressing when she is there.
His teachers comments were completely unhelpful and untrue and I'm so glad you rebuffed them! It sounds like he's doing really well at school and has interests for his future which is fantastic! You're an awesome mum and your son is lucky to have you advocating for him
06-05-2018 05:29 PM
@taokat Firstly I completely understand how you feel when you say you wish youd done things different with your daughter. I can think of many times when I thought I was doing the right thing with my kids and looking back, I probably wasnt. But thats life and its a journey that takes us up and down and really we learn so much about ourselves and our children. We realise that all those decisions we thought of as mistakes we did out of love and even if now we think it was a bad choice, maybe a few years down the track, her going to TAFE or choosing a path from here will make it into a good choice. Perhaps the best thing you can do is realise you are doing the best you know how right now. And that life is a journey where we dont need to have a destination we just need to master the lessons along the way.
Thanks for your words of encouragement about my sons issues. It really is hard to not doubt myself but yes I need to have a chat to the principal which I have made enquiries about just now.
Many teachers have a way of making me feel that I am not giving my son the future he deserves. I see life as more than just school. I see that a child can flourish after school if given the chance to make their own decisions and feel supported in those decisions. To be heard is a great feeling for them. The teacher I spoke with (the senior subject coordinator) seems to think that the only way my son will function in a job is if he comes to school every day or else he wont cope with real life workng. I said well the school system doesnt suit him. Hes not the type to sit still in classes for 5 hours. Who knows what he will be like if he has an outdoors job? Or a creative job or something where he doesnt have to do the criteria that the teacher sets out?
I told my son that now he is 17 he doesnt have to be at school so its his choice to go and that the teachers cannot tell him he has to go. However I am also aware that there are certain conditions he needs to meet to pass. I cannot believe that the school can terminate a students enrolment if they feel the student may not pass Yr 12..thats completely wrong in my eyes...its like they only want the school to look good on paper so they get rid of the ones they dont want...hmmm...
Anyway thanks again. It can get stressful with our kids but I am glad to be amongst people who are also struggling through.
06-05-2018 06:58 PM
Hey @hippychick I just wanted to say your love and care for your son always shines through your posts and I wouldn't give too much weight to those teachers opinions. I mean they have a valid point of view to an extent but not everyone is made to fit the mould of academia or educational settings / classrooms and you're right your son may find that he flourishes in a creative, outdoors or a more hand on environment.
I would just keep doing what you're doing and focus on encouraging his strengths and passions