10-29-2016 12:13 AM - edited 10-29-2016 12:16 AM
Hello All, My 16 Year olf Daughter (nearly 16 I might add by 14 days) is in her first relationship. He is a year younger (thank God!) They only see eachother on weekend, but now he's asked her to stay the night!!! Hellllooooo I say!!! Huh Ah.... Not happening! Her answer "Well I knew you were going to say that!" then off with a huff and puff. Me: "Well Honey, I gave birth to children and made a committment to be a responsible parent, and by letting you stay at your NEW boyfriend's house and I hardly know what is family is like, would be being an irresponsible parent". So now apparently I don't understand what she is going through. "Giggle Giggle", Yeah right . She is still talking to me but with more attitude than I can handle. Oh the joys... Was waiting for this day, just hoped it would never come.. Trying to be empathic, and kind and understanding and most of all POLITE. It's going to be interesting.
10-31-2016 02:42 PM
That day always comes @seaglecc, as much as we hope it doesn't. It sounds like you're doing your best to keep a level head, even though this must be triggering some strong mamma-bear emotions!
Have you had the sex talk with her and mapped out expectations?
11-01-2016 01:29 PM
we are in the same boat! @seaglecc my daughter is 16 too. She is a femminist and her ideas on dating and sex and things are very progressive, sometimes shocking! While I grew up conservative, I could understand where she is coming from. I am glad she shares her thoughts with me and it seems that she is not putting her ideas into actual practice for the time being. I said to her, I trust you and I think you will make your decisions, as long as it is a serious choice. Just make sure that you are not pressured to do anything that you might regret in the future.
11-25-2016 04:39 PM - edited 11-25-2016 04:40 PM
11-29-2016 02:40 PM
@seaglecc if we think that we've got it tough trying to navigate the world of the modern day teen, just imagine how mind boggling it must be for the grandparents!! 😂
Haha, maybe you also need to sit down with the grandparents and have 'the talk'. 😛
12-01-2016 03:39 PM
Wow, such mature boundaries and responses! You must be very happy @seaglecc. Pat yourself on the back and come up with a plan for the grandparents later
12-09-2016 12:50 PM
Well done @seaglecc sounds like you all handled this beautifully. And well done on raising a daughter who not only understands the importance of asking for advice when she's unsure of things but talks to you about what's happening even when she knows she may not get exactly what she thinks she wants. There's a lot of young people who would have done ALL of this 'off radar' and a lot of parents who are the last to know. Congrats!
I'm also getting from your posts the importance of communicating with the bf or gf's parents. Did that come about from this situation or did you know each other already?
And I can't wait for the "Sex ed for Grandparents" thread.