How we mums do so little for ourselves

[sonson]

So I am back after a little while and in much better shape and I have more chooks and babies hatching this week!!! So exciting for us.

A few mths ago my chooks meant nothing (huge red flag) and my kids SN14 and her somewhat normal teen twin have been doing the bulk of caring and making decisions and living in despair whilst I somehow managed to get out of whatever scenery my mind was hiding behind. I lost my memory and failed the mini mental tests. Didn't know my name blah blah.

They rang the psych team who changed meds and slowly I began to smile and show a few minutes of interest.. They coped extremely well as usual and got support from friends and the MH team.

During this time we had so much success with all of our issues, SN issues wins for my girl and the school took on all recommendations. Rehab appmts 3 times a wk, my SN girl is back in the pool and her feet are loosening up more each week. The school also has given my SN girl an outlet to gain confidence and train dogs for autism.  T1 has just returned from a wk of cadet training on one of the Vic bases. Her confidence was booming until she saw her sister. I did find having a single child very draining so glad I managed twins!

If I'd taken more care of myself instead of putting out the traumatic fires hour after hour and stressed less about stupid things, if only I just talked, if only I'd realised how little juice was in the tank, if only the rain had stopped, if only I had remembered to cry and breathe -advice I freely give out and kindly forgot to advise myself. But now, I'm back to building the weather is hot and I have to rescue my hens as the rooster is running amok .. We'd eat him but he is a bantam and who else would sit on my shoulder at night watching telly!!

[JAKGR8]

I hear you! I am glad you're getting back on track.

I know what you mean about time for yourself and advising others. I didn't slow down until a friend said to me that she was going to give me some advice she was given when she was standing broken n the staff car park. I had to listen because the friend had been me. Had to take my own advice or it isn't worth anything
Stay strong and sending positive thoughts your way.

[gina-Ro]

hey there @sonson  

it's so true that it can be so difficult to have time for yourself - glad to hear you are in better shape and taking time for yourself now!