12-27-2020 06:47 PM
12-27-2020 09:14 PM
Hi @Noname1, thank you for sharing your story. That sounds like a really difficult position to be in as a parent. You can tell that you really care about your children and want what is best for them. There is no wrong or right decision - all you can do is make a decision based on what you think is best for your family right now. That doesn't mean that your next step will be easy to take - so I don't blame you for needing a little reassurance. Have you thought of attending counselling either as a couple or individually? There is also a service called Parent Line which also offers telephone support.
Please feel welcome to keep us updated Hopefully you recieve some support from the community soon.
12-28-2020 06:51 AM
03-18-2021 12:13 PM - edited 03-18-2021 12:25 PM
@Noname1 i have two sons 14-16 and your story is a mirror image of my issue i have with my husband (the step parent) I hate conflict between myself, my children and us a family. I hope you have found some resolution in your issues as I am yet to find some in mine. I'm nearly at the point of moving out with the boys so they can finish their schooling to make it easier......i dearly love my husband to bits..
One of my biggest problems is that my husband has had his time with raising his 5 boys ( all in their 20s and 30s) and i believe he struggles to realise i need to raise mine and not just wish they would grow up quickly and go ( big generation gap issue). they are not disrespectful boys and have never been raised like that but my husband disagrees... its a struggle and I'm really stuck
03-18-2021 03:38 PM
Issues with coparenting is something we see a lot of on our forum, you're certainly not alone in experiencing these challenges, thanks for sharing them with us. I'm sure @Noname1 will also feel comforted by your post as well, knowing they aren't alone
It must be really challenging that your children and your husbands children are at very different life stages, have all the children spent a lot of time together?
I'm wondering about how your husband is feeling about the possibility of you moving out with your children while they finish school? Is this an idea he supports?
It is really lovely how much you clear care about your children and want them to be supported You deserve support for yourself as well, Taylor mentioned Parentline above they are a counselling service for parents that might be worth looking into if you wanted to get some one-on-one support .
All the best
03-18-2021 04:34 PM - edited 03-18-2021 04:40 PM
My children and my husbands children have never spent time together, reason being the age gap-HIs children have families of their own now.
He would not want me to move out and would not support it if i was to mention it. He has been apart of my children's life for a good 7 years and the struggle now for him is the teenage years- him raising his children back in the 90's when they were teenagers is a lot different to raising my children now and that is the struggle he has. my children have always been taught if they want something special they have to earn it... they have jobs... great friends... great school.. do sport...do their homework...... are always polite.... don't get themselves in trouble. Yes they might back chat or Roll their eyes but dont all teenagers??????
i will be looking into further help somehow, somewhere (parents helpline) and glad...curious that I have been able to stumble across this forum.
03-18-2021 07:48 PM
03-18-2021 10:25 PM