Hi Breez-Ro Thank you so much for your reply. I appreciate it.  Yep, over the years we have tried several parenting courses and our son has been on a number of "courses" - sadly nothing has helped. His attitude is unique!    Therapists seem to be confused as what to say and the most recent one said she really didn't know what else to suggest apart from boarding school (not financially possible). They have suggested many ways of dealing with the issues but our son continually denies any issue and thinks everyone else (us, friends, teachers, etc) is too blame for his behaviour and never him - he never ever takes responsibility for his behaviour or actions.    We have tried every approach every text book and every professional has ever suggested - all to no avail. So, Yes, sadly life was much better before he was around. I can't recall a time he made me happy for very long or even proud .... As bad as it sounds, he does now know how I feel as we just don't get along and clash constantly. Even in the "quieter" times, I have huge mistrust of him (he continually lies) and I struggle with his negative, mean personality. I do think he has low self confidence but no matter how much we try and praise (occasionally) it makes no difference.    I accept our situation is not as bad as it is for some people so I hate to complain but I really just want to find some peace, calm and happiness. We are older than the average parents and ready for our lives back.....     ... View more