Thank you to all of you for your amazing words of support. It was so fantastic to log in and read all this. So nice to know we're not out here alone! Your advice and support have done wonders for my heart. Growing up in this era seems so much more difficult than when I was a teenager. Issues I'd never of dreamed of seem to be commonplace these days - no wonder so many of us feel like we are frantically swimming upstream just trying to keep our heads up. Thank you for updating the post - apologies for including information not allowed. A bit of an update. Our daughter has an amazing school where she feels comfortable and nurtured. There are many adults there she can turn to and, upon further discussion discovered she has spoken to one of these about the texts as well. In fact, the reason I'm on this forum is because this wonderful teacher reached out to me and provided the link to the site. We are also having a meeting when school resumes to discuss in person. In the meantime we have focused on congratulating her for standing up and looking out for her friends. We have also used some of the advice around different strategies for both managing in the event something happens again, and ways to hopefully stop the behaviour. Showing kindness, fun, empowering behaviours to build each other up and develop confidence. Once again, thank you all so very much. It's great not to feel so alone.
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My 12, nearly 13 year old daughter recently went to her teachers about a friend who was repeatedly self-harming due to stress. We were so proud she stepped up and asked for help - at the risk of potentially loosing her friends. She was incredibly upset by the situation - the thought of her friend hurting herself hurt my daughter too. Now another friend has texted her saying she wants to kill herself and has it all planned because she received a C on her last assessment. I believe it was sent as an attention thing and our daughter says now everything is fine. My question is how on earth can I support my daughter to deal with these kinds of things? Are they just words or something more serious? Should she go to the teacher for every text? She was very upset by it all and I'm at a loss at how she can respond other than what she did - said I love you, don't do that, we can go talk to someone together. How do we build the resilience of these little people to deal with such major issues. Has anyone else experienced a similar situation?
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