sorry I've been away from this page ... it's a balance between work, my daughter, house work and downtime just to chill. The newest part of the journey with my daughter is she does not like me yelling ... so I have promised her I will not yell (6 days in and I've kept my word) .. however I said there will be consequences for bad behavioiur or not doing chores and I laid these out for her ... no pocket money, no phone, no internet (not all at the same time but incremental if she reoffends and continues not to do chores). It's been a very quiet week and I have stepped back from doing the things I used to do for her. I actually think she feels she got the raw end of the deal but she did have options to respond in terms of what she felt was fair and at the conversation she was amiable and agreeable. I have had to learn to relax and step back and let her take the reigns of her life and more importantly realise there are consequences for every action both good and bad. Hard lesson for me but a good one and a very mature lesson for her.
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