Thank you ! this part of your message really hit home for ... Also, we have found that even though we don’t pressure our kids in this area, they will notice if we have high/unrealistic expectations of ourselves. So we don’t have to say a word for our kids to feel pressure. It’s that **bleep** role modelling thing I’ve cursed since the day they were born😬😁 which basically means ... give yourself a break. ... After my marriage ended over 10 years ago now, my daughter has seen me as being the 'strongest person she knows' ... I've probably worked too hard on the role modelling, being so worried that I was going to fail her - parenting alone has meant I am everything to both kids wrapped up in one person. She is learning that I am not and is going to test the idea. She had her school retreat the last 3 days, she has just messaged to say she's home. She also rang me on the first night and messaged me last night - the umbilical cord may stretch but it doesn't seem ready to break just yet. I think she'll be fine, but yes I fully appreciate your words about how kids feel the pressure even if it isn't articulated - Ill work on that - thanks again.
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