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saphyra · ‎04-13-2019

@Dad4good Thank you for your reply, when I read it I felt a knot untie from my chest just a little. I know it is ok to feel like enough is enough but when someone else tells you it’s ok it packs more of an impact. My daughter and I have come to a truce of sorts and she is doing better, I still feel a little on eggshells when we talk or I ask her to help around the house but so far we have had no fights. I have been thinking a lot about her moving out and wonder how I will cope with it. When we are battling it is easy to feel ready for her to go, all the other times I just can not imagine a home without her in it. She is 17 and most likely moving out sooner rather than later, this is my first baby to leave the nest so to speak and I have come to realise I am not great with big changes.

saphyra · ‎04-08-2019

Being able to recognise his own behaviour is a huge step, my daughter can generally get there after she calms down a bit. I am sometimes still fuming at the ears and she starts being all logical and trying to talk about her behaviour. Her major hurdle is actually talking about things, she usually goes off and hides in the park and texts me, she has a really fear of confrontation. Many times when it seems we are working through something there is some miscommunication or I say something “wrong” and we end up in another battle. Trying to be firm but fair, understanding but not manipulated. It is like balancing on a tightrope sometimes. Best of luck with you son, my best advice is when he asks for that help try not to wait to help him find someone. At first I put off finding a Counsellor or any therapy when my daughter first reached out for help, and when she really needed it it was much harder to get her interested.

saphyra · ‎04-08-2019

Thank you @Nikkita, as you said it sounds odd but just know we are not alone is often the best support. I’m sorry you are going through this with your son, it can be so easy to self blame as parents and feel like we have failed in our job as parents. I think know we are not in this alone helps to relieve self blame and gives me the emotional boost to keep trying and supporting my teen for what I hope will be a positive future.

saphyra · ‎04-07-2019

Thank you for those bits of advice, things I had never thought of before. And the kind words of support are always needed and appreciated.

saphyra · ‎04-05-2019

I managed to get her to come home as she was staying at her nans/dads and found that no one was checking on her. I didn’t feel safe leaving her there so I used some conflict resolution techniques and got her to return home where she isn’t alone. We have had a major battle today about her attitude that almost turned violent, she is hard to communicate with some times and she gets aggressive when she feels I’m not listening to her, I also have a temper when I feel disrespected sometimes these traits do not mix well. She has good strategies and understanding of her behaviour and actions which can be amazing at times. It is like a roller coaster of emotions in this house at the moment and we all seem to be tip toeing around each other. We saw a Counsellor again today and will continue with that, she hasn’t been diagnosed with any mental health disorder at this time.

saphyra · ‎04-04-2019

Thank you, kind words mean so much when times are rough

saphyra · ‎04-03-2019

Hi I’m going to attempt to introduce myself. 1. How old are your kids and what is one thing they've done recently that made you laugh? I’m 37 I have two kids aged 17 (girl) and 11 (boy). I am also 26 weeks pregnant with my third child. My son makes me laugh every day, today he declared he has salmonella because he tasted a boiled egg at Cubs. 2. Parenting can be really stressful - how do you try to keep those stress levels down? At the moment I have lost the battle with stress, I’m just working through things moment by moment today. 3. What led you to ReachOut Parents today? My daughter and I are having issues, I found drugs in her room and since trying to talk to her about it she has basically run away to her nans house and has threatened suicide if I talk to her 4. Whats your top tip for parents whose kids are about to enter teenage years? I wish I had tips, I had no idea my child would be like this and I have no clue how I could of prevented it. 5. Whats the best thing about weekends? Sleeping in

saphyra · ‎04-02-2019

I found some marijuana and a bong in my 17 year old daughters room today, I knew she was smoking even though she has constantly lied about it. The thing that made me angry was we had recently talked about how I feel about drugs in the house and she sat there looked me in the eye while her dope stash was sitting in the cupboard and promised she wouldn’t bring it into the house. I have another child and one on the way and I already lived a childhood filled with drugs, violence and police raids. All of this I have talked to her about extensively as I feel very strongly about it. Well since confronting her about what I found she has refused to acknowledge any responsibility or wrong doings on her part and refused to come home, she is acting like a 5 year old, and now she is saying she never wants to live here anymore and she has hated it here for years. I am emotionally drained by the last 5-7 years of emotional blackmail, lies and constant battle with her “mental health” last year she disclosed to a school Counsellor she was abused by a cousin, when I tried to talk about it she refused, she didn’t want help or to go to the police. She has since asked to spend time with the person she accused wants to be friends and hang out, they are only 2 years age different. I never called her a liar about this but I feel like she lied to get out of school, she even said that the Counsellor forced her to admit to something so she could go home. I was taking her to counseling and even a psychiatrist but and I know this sounds aweful but I now feel like she is faking mental health to get her own way and manipulate me. She has threatened suicide on many occasions when she hasn’t gotten her own way, constantly lies about why she doesn’t want to go to school (blames it on mental health when I know it is because her friend won’t be at school or she has a class she doesn’t like). I feel like I have totally failed as a parent, I just want her out of my house which makes me feel worse.

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