Hi there You sound like you are having a difficult time with your son. It can be very draining trying to work out how to help them. I spent a great deal of time sourcing the right medical support which obviously depends on the condition that he has. My first suggestion would be a good talk to your gp then perhaps a referral on to the right specialist (paediatrician can be very helpful). I also spent a lot of time getting the right support through their schools. This can take time but is essential. Most teachers are very keen to help and support and there is usually a main person to discuss health issues and pastoral care with you. It takes time and sometimes is frustrating when things don't happen quickly or they need reminding of issues but it is worthwhile. My three children are now very aware and much more proactive of their needs but it has not always been easy. It sounds like he has school avoidance too do this really needs addressing through the gp and the school counselor to help him. My youngest benefited from shorter days initially as a way of easing him back to school after he had been very unwell. Just remember that you are doing your best and supporting your son but that it is also ok to say you need help. Good luck . ... View more

Hi @Mitzi  My just 18 year old is in his first relationship and it has been a bit of a roller- coaster for me! I felt quite distanced from him for a while as he finished school, literally fled the nest(so to speak) and grew up over night. however i have kept the communication with him as strong as I can and we talk and text and he is sharing more and more (five months on).  I think the main thing I have learnt is to keep letting him know how much we love him and enjoy seeing him having fun and how much I loathe the social media side of these modern relationships! They seem so intense and there is no detachment time. (and they see things that distress them re their partner) We also keep encouraging him to spend time at home with his family even if its just for a meal or a chat. ... View more

I loved your post. Humour does make you brave. I too felt overwhelmed at things that occurred in our family and close extended family (all health related) and when my health was involved it added to the load.  i learnt that laughter and looking at the funny side of some things really helped. It did not take it away but i felt a slightly lighter load.  Also time is a great strengthener as you go through things you realize how incredibly capable you are. I take the time now for me- exercise (always a walk near the ocean), coffee with a friend, and special time with my husband separate from day to day routines. it all helps.  I also get my family to talk about 'three best things' so that the negative thoughts/happenings are trumped by positive if possible.    ... View more

Hi I'm tuffy I am a Mum of three aged 18, 15 and 13. Have spent the last many years as a stay at home mum very involved in school activities, community volunteer work and family commitments. Have loved it. My three have chronic medical health issues which has meant some tough times. First son has just finished school and there has been great change already with independence and Homelife. This has led to some sadness on my behalf. There are many many reasons why I feel connected with kids and we regularly look at 'three best things' from our days. I am very keen to help families that struggle with their teens and health issues and the changes as they reach adulthood. ... View more