Tried to tag you mother bear but I'm not to good with technology Thanks for your words I've woken today and am going to try and get my glass half full mojo back on. This forum has been awesome for me feeling like l can speak freely about my son and not be judged Today we are going to ask Matt to have a think we will give him the option of leaving school explaining studies can be picked up later on and dreams can be followed however in doing that he will need to work with me 3 times a week for approx 2 hours at a time whilst we work on him getting well again I agree schools are not addressing the fallout if bulling there's so many videos online if parents people talking about what bulling has done or ending their child's life schools need to show these real heartbreaking stories monthly if needs be to drum it in Thankyou so much ... View more

Boundaries do need to be set l agree but at times they need to be flexible Mental illness doesn't have a set pattern or timetable l have found and some days are easier than others I'm learning which battles to pick and which not to. There is no right or wrong sometimes I need to follow my gut We tried long distance Ed for our son it didn't work for him but I know a friend whose daughter has done all the best for going this way Perhaps a little timeout then look into hopefully it can work ... View more

Both the school and I are trying hard to get him back again the school have been involved the hospital meet with them they know and teachers are amazing this setback happened 4 weeks ago his teacher noticed him very agitated and he has a special pass that allows him to just hold it up and leave to his safe spot in the office and call me. Our problem is he just goes silent so while he has answered my question of did something happen in class with yes that's all we get. I finally convinced him to go see his psychiatrist only to find out yesterday that's he is not practicing at the moment feels like the world is just against us. I'll contact his hospital today and hope we can find a new Dr that Matt can gain trust in The problem with his paranoia reached levels that even walking past someone who is laughing at nothing to do with him he believes it is this is after years of being tormented by things like pushing him over in mud to laugh at the fat kid trying to get up ( he's a big solid boy but not really fat ) pulling his chair out from under him telling him he is ugly gay would never have a girl like him to a girl saying let's go out to only dump him that afternoon in front of everyone and saying it was all a setup and joke over the years he just grew his hair long so when they made fun of him he just let it drop over his face as a shield and goes into another world a silent one I am struggling with knowing that while I was sending him to school thinking he was safe he wasn't the day came when he rang me from school and said I'm going to kill myself which was the start of a horrific last year I knew he was picked on but not to the extent it was the guilt I feel that l kept sending him there is driving me crazy and sometimes I get so frustrated with him the constant voice in my head " if only he would talk to somebody " We have given him so many options if people to talk to family our friends headspace counsellors online kids help places we just can't break this silent barrier he has put up ... View more

Yes he is on 2 different meds one for depression/anxiety and another for paranoia His personal habits have improved from last time he was sick showering teeth cleaning hair washing His sleeping patterns are a bit all over the place he does sleep but has bags under his eyes In his room he seems to be either on the computer or reading ... View more

Thanks for your reply Whilst in the hospital they tried to work on the suggestion you gave as he is very artistic and enjoys writing they after quite some time gained his trust and he did find he could express some things to them.. We have even gone on the path of a website where you write under an assumed name to try and help him write story's that relate to what's going on but we seem to have hit a brick wall with all of that.. We try to engage him in things around the home like play with your dog can u mow lawns come watch your brother play footy he does it or comes but just appears to be staring into space in his own world Yesterday I convinced him to get back to his Dr he finally agreed when I called this morning for an appointment he no longer works at that clinic and they have no idea where he went.. if I google Dr it says he is still at last place he worked at. Do we give up on his schooling and try to just focus on his mental health I feel the schooling it's important as he is getting out of his room and having to engage socially being in year 11 missing classes puts him way behind and it concerns me how he will take failing school ... View more

His school were hopeless in the early days but after being admitted to hospital realised the extent and have since bent over backwards for him Prior to hospital he started to see the school psychologist but Matt was out of his expertise so that's when we went to psychiatrist biggest issue is he just won't speak ... View more

Hi I'm mum to a 19 year old with OCD and a 17 year old who suffers with extreme anxiety and paranoia last year things got so bad with the youngest he was admitted to a psychiatric hospital for 3 months things were slowly improving and we have now not been able to get him back to school for the last month ( he was only doing two subjects) we have tried long distance ed but he struggled without a teacher I'm terrified daily for him and his future I'm exhausted trying to work and raise my family I have some great people in my life but they just keep saying stay strong your great etc but after over 6 years of this I don't know how to keep being strong I googled support for parents and you guys came up I feel it's exactly what I need hearing from others in same situations people who truly understand ... View more