Hi @Caroline ,
That sounds like a really challenging situation to be in as a parent, do you mind me asking how old your daughter is? Do you know if she's been prescribed the Xanax by a doctor, or is she obtaining it through friends/other means?
It sounds like there's definitely some signs that her use of Xanax is negatively impacting her life and contributing to high risk behaviour, having her involved in a car accident like that as well as then sharing it on social media must have been pretty confronting for you. The fact that she's using it at home alone is also concerning. We have a great article here written by a clinical psychologist about Teens and Drug Addiction that you may find helpful.
It does sound like she may benefit from some professional help, do you think she would be open to using a service like Headspace? They also offer online counselling.
I can completely understand you feeling like she needs to face some consequences for her actions - one natural consequence could be that she loses use of the car. Was she driving the family car, or was it hers? Has she been able to afford to get it repaired or replaced?
Sorry for all of the questions - I imagine it would be both really stressful and frustrating as a parent to see your child making some pretty dangerous decisions without any apparent remorse. It's also really important to look after yourself if you're feeling stressed about it all - we do have a one to one parenting coaching/counselling service that is free of charge, you can access that here if you'd find it helpful to chat with a professional about what's been going on for you.
Wishing you all the best, please keep us posted on how you're going.
