03-08-2021 03:59 PM
03-08-2021 05:17 PM
Hmmm.. this is a tricky one. First , you need to win your daughter to yourself. Build a solid relationship, build trust. She has problem with her self esteem and she is ready to do what those naughty boys ask her to do. Secondly, sit her down and let her see the reasons why she should not do wrong stuff. Let her know those guys does not respect her and her body. Let her know if someone really love her they wont be asking her stupid requests.
Confiscating her card ,phone etc is a good way to show your displeasure but that is not the solution to the problem. You need to let her know she does not need to do the bidding of those naughty boys to validate her beauty.
Try and understand her feeling and show genuine concern. All shall be well .
03-08-2021 06:18 PM - edited 03-08-2021 06:21 PM
I can only imagine how stressed you must be with this situation. I understand that you want to keep your daughter safe as well as respect her autonomy. The decision to confiscate her bank card is a very tricky one to make and is a hard one to answer.
Have you thought about discussing this situation with her school, so that they can keep an eye on things while she's there? Also have you thought about participating in a parenting program that focuses on children in her age group and/or a family program that may deal with this topic in a sensitive, non-judgmental, yet informative way? This may include both parents and child to attend. Your daughter's school may be able to direct you with what supports that are out there. It might be of benefit to have your daughter join a mentor program, this can help to her to have a positive role model in her life that is outside of the family. Sometimes this can be a huge support for children.
I wish you and your family the best outcome.
03-08-2021 07:08 PM
03-09-2021 05:30 PM
Hi @Bacardi ,
It's so wonderful to hear that the conversation with your daughter went well, I can imagine that would have been such a hard one to navigate as a parent.
ReachOut have a few resources around sexting that I thought might be helpful for you and your daughter- they also outline some of the potential long term/ legal consequences to keep in mind (especially if she's underage), and has some good ideas for how to approach those chats
It sounds like you've done such a good job having a really tough conversation with your daughter - I hope you can do something nice for yourself in the next few days too, I imagine that would've been a pretty confronting experience for you.