01-26-2018 01:34 PM
01-26-2018 02:44 PM
I wish I had the "why/trigger" too. Its not really there- I do know depression runs in our family so its partially genetics. I did find she had a trauma as a 3rd grader- lasted about 6 months that I just found out about this week- its been heart breaking. But my daughter was never shy- she has friends, outgoing, over achiever in school- so It came out of the blue this year starting 9th grade- but I think these kids put too much pressure on themselves. I admit now I always kept pushing for good grades because I know what she's capable of. But since this I have let go of those ideals. I would be happy if she would go to school even a few hours a day. I'm sad she wont be able to join the military like she planned since she was 5150'd. and she wont go straight into a University now that she's not honor roll. But really all I want is for her to get healthy and stop hurting herself. We are in California. I know good support groups have been extremely helpful for our daughter and for my husband and myself. The best thing going for us so far.
01-26-2018 03:26 PM
01-26-2018 11:35 PM
Jakehelp the whole school thing is hard. She has not been since basically last October. I keep in touch with the school counselor constantly and they have been supportive. We have a 504 pIan in place- don't know if that's an option where you are at. It makes for special "in school conditions" more time on tests, can leave if a panic attack happens, etc. But at this point I am hoping when she returns she can try a partial day and home school the rest of the day to finish this school year. If not we will just do home school the rest of the year.
01-27-2018 02:53 AM
01-27-2018 07:20 AM
Jakehelp- I totally get it! I feel the same way about school- I keep making a plan for her to go, then it falls apart. Its beyond frustrating and heartbreaking. Your daughter is amazing and strong- I know how you feel wanting to "fix" it....and it just cant be done. I have my mom and dad near by and they are involved and on my side but one thing that keeps happening and I don't know how to tell them...they are constantly bombarding me for updates and pushing ideas and asking so many questions about how she is doing. Its making it harder on me when I don't have the answers and I don't feel like talking. I guess I am saying this to you in hopes that you are giving your daughter both space and support.....does that make sense?
01-27-2018 09:51 AM
I think sometimes when we're caring for others we can forget that we also need to take care of ourselves because:
so just make sure you are putting some self-care strategies into your every day and seeking professional mental health support when you need it
01-27-2018 03:02 PM