02-11-2018 04:25 AM - last edited on 02-12-2018 09:35 AM by Nick-RO
It has been a little while- just wanted to check in see how things are going with you guys and a little update on us....
We have had a pretty good week. It has now been 2 weeks with no self harm! huge victory She is trying to go 1 month and then I will allow her to get her nose pierced. Seems to be keeping her motivated even with strong urges. She will be starting some home schooling next week to try and get caught up before actually re-entering school part time. Today she is out for the day with her older brother and younger sister for some golf. Small steps in getting back out into the world.
02-11-2018 05:07 AM
02-12-2018 06:58 AM
On line school is good. At least he is doing something towards his education and it probably helps keep him busy. That's got to be a huge challenge working with him- you are a good grandpa for doing that for him. I would have no idea how to help my daughter school wise or her attitude she would give me. I don't know why these kids are so hard on themselves. I wish they could forgive themselves when they have a relapse and realize that they are not starting back at the beginning ( even though it feels like it sometimes.)
02-12-2018 09:58 AM
Hi @Jakehelp Really sorry to hear about the episode that you guys faced this week, but it sounds like you coped really well with it by asking him to forgive himself.
I wanted to let you know about an article on the ReachOut site. As you know, we are based in Australia so some of the links there won't be appropriate for you (such as where to find professional support), but the article is a really practical guide and talks about some ideas for how to manage the urges that your son is experiencing and what tools he can use to address them (things like distraction and delaying techniques). I wonder if there are any ideas in there that might be useful for you to keep having this conversation with your son?
You can find the article by following this link
02-12-2018 11:06 AM
05-10-2018 07:07 PM - last edited on 05-10-2018 07:46 PM by Breez-RO
Oh hun, I know exactly how you feel, my daughter was/is the same, whilst we’ve come a long way, some days I notice new evidence of self harm...I don’t like to normalise this at all, however, sometimes for these poor kids in this world of pressures, most of them social media based it’s a way to release. What we need to do is encourage (with help) replacing poor coping mechanisms with healthy ones....sounds like you’re doing an amazing job, talking, not judging and just being there, keeping those lines of communication open is so important! Are you taking any measures to get some support for yourself?? Xxx Amanda
05-10-2018 10:35 PM
You're so right @amandanw social media adds layers of complexities and insecurities for our young people, how incredibly challenging for them. Just a heads up I edited the method of self-harm out of your post. We can use terms like self harm/hurt self but not the actual method as it may stir past trauma's for other members. You can read more in our community guidelines.
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